I Put a (Sexual) Spell on You: Erotic Hypnosis 101

When you think of hypnosis, your mind may automatically associate it with endless swirls and winging pendulums that’ll induce you to go into a deep slumber. The latter is quite true, which can bring personal benefits like a calmer state of mind or recalling memories of any sort. You can even be controlled under that state, but with boundaries set in place.

With this in mind, it’s not limited just there. Hypnosis can also exist within a sexual context, awakening a different (perhaps, feistier) side of your sexual self. This kind of hypnosis is referred to as erotic hypnosis, or hypnosex.

Dive in deeper with this rather enchanting way of increasing your sexual appearance, wherein only your mind is involved, and you’re completely hands-off.

What is Erotic Hypnosis?

According to known hypnotist Kaz Riley, she defined erotic hypnosis as the act of:

“Using hypnosis to achieve sexual goals, enhancing their responses and feelings without being touched.”

This can involve one person being in the sexual trance, and the other controlling them. We’ll discuss this later on, but hypnodomme Katherine Dire also quoted that erotic hypnosis is “focused on elevating activities or aspects of sex that the subject already relishes.”

Due to this, the person in the trance is more vulnerable in hopes of unveiling more of their sexual interests. Interests that either never got to try or were too shy to be shed into the light. Moreover, it allows the partner in control to learn more about their significant other.

Because it’s a type of hypnosis, it’s an indirect way to play around with sex. Being hands-off, it’s more than just reaching an orgasm (or hypnogasm). Since the term “erotic” only refers to arousal, orgasm isn’t much of a given. This process is rooted in building up pleasure, creating a more intimate connection, and succumbing to a deeper realm of relaxation. 

Due to the power play and control this act holds, erotic hypnosis can also be listed as a play idea under BDSM. With the dominant-submissive play dynamic, the dominant is in charge of hypnotizing the submissive. As much as the dominant will thrive on the trance state of the submissive, the pair still follows a contract, establish a safe word, and everything else under the rules of BDSM.

Why Do People Like Erotic Hypnosis?

Believing and liking the benefits of normal hypnosis in changing one’s life for the better is one thing. But erotic hypnosis as to fixing or spicing up one’s sex life? It may be a stretch for those who haven’t ventured much into sex, though there’s nothing wrong with being a bit vanilla! We’ll give you some insights as to why people are intrigued by this act.

1 They aim to relax.

Hypnosis generally aids the subject in reaching a state of pure calmness. This doesn’t fall short in erotic hypnosis, wherein you place your full trust in your partner or the hypnotherapist to ease you through the entire session. Their voice when they slowly put you in that trance, reading aloud the script you’ve both made, it’s soothing and reaffirming. You wouldn’t have to think too much of the penetration, but only to let go and let them do the work. Because of that, it makes you feel good and empowered without having to try hard. This may be of bigger help if numerous stress-giving factors surround you.

2 They want to heighten their sensations.

Take sensation play to the ultimate max. According to MindBodyGreen, 

“Your body is a human tape recorder that remembers everything you’ve ever felt. Erotic hypnosis lets you exchange your physical expectations for inner sensations.”

This just shows how powerful your mind can be, replaying the best sexcapades you’ve had and then taking it to the next level. And who knows, you’ll gain that hypnogasm in no time.

3 They enjoy roleplay and fantasy.

Erotic hypnosis can either tap into your deepest sexual desires or intensify what you already enjoy. For example, if you fancy being the goody-two-shoes while your partner is the bad rebel, it can reflect in your trance. Perhaps one surprise you can get here would be that you’re braver to dirty talk without holding back, whereas in real life, they do all the naughty words that send chills down your spine.

Another example would be acting out your hidden interest for pegging, wherein you get behind your partner as you thrust the toy into them. Only there did you see how much you wanted to do it, seeing yourself in another light.

4 They unlock new sexual sides of themselves.

The fun side of sex is that you’ll think you know all your sexual interests, but you’ll learn new things the more active you are. With erotic hypnosis, kinks and fetishes you’ve never thought about may surface to their interest. You could already have a script ready to go, but something in your unconscious surroundings sparks an interest along the way.

Could it be topping your partner more often?

Deepthroating?

Or maybe you’d prefer being in control of the hypnosis rather than your partner… The possibilities are endless here.

5 They aim to overcome their sexual shame or trauma.

Aside from the naughtiness behind erotic hypnosis, this method can wholesomely give the subject closure and peace of mind over time from their sexual shame or traumas. Whether they were assaulted or came from a toxic relationship, erotic hypnosis gives them ease and relaxation in every session due to their trance-like state. They hear reassuring words from a professional, slowly allowing them to move on from what has already happened. Even if there are many other ways to cope with such pain, it doesn’t make erotic hypnosis less of a helpful solution in overcoming them.

Ways To Engage in Erotic Hypnosis

Erotic hypnosis has quite a range of how to engage in them. It depends on what you can afford or already have access to. Here are some ways on how to engage in such an act.

• With a hypnotherapist: This person is a certified professional with whom you have a one-on-one session, wherein they easily guide their client into a trance-like state and then act in certain ways or behaviors. They won’t touch you the entire time (unless stated otherwise) and only rely on verbal orders.
• With a partner: If they’re the one controlling you, they must do a lot of research before trying it out. They can also seek help from a hypnotherapist, allowing them to witness how it works in a session effectively. Make sure there is given consent, and ground rules are set beforehand.
• Solo: This can be done by watching expert-guided videos or creating your own script only to be recorded after for your pleasure.

Step-By-Step Process of Erotic Hypnosis

What exactly goes on in one session of erotic hypnosis? Here’s a simple breakdown behind it.

1. Like an average hypnosis session, you’ll be asked to lie down and get comfortable so you can be put into a pure state of relaxation.
2. Mentally, let everything go and allow things to flow through you without resistance.
3. Whoever is hypnotizing you will set the scene based on whatever things you agreed on and walk you through it.
4. The person in charge can also command you, something your conscious mind may not do. Expect it to be benched like in sports, and let the person in charge do their job.
5. Bit by bit, the scenario shall reach an end, and you’ll wake up from your trance. Like penetrative sex, you may feel overwhelmed and vulnerable especially if it’s your first time.

Safety Tips to Follow

Before trying anything challenging and extraordinary like erotic hypnosis, safety is a must for all of the parties involved. With that, here’s a list of our top tips to follow before engaging in erotic hypnosis.

1 Know your why.

You don’t just have a hypnotic session, erotic or normal, for nothing. So ask yourself, “What’s the reason you want to do this kind of hypnosis?“. Your why fuels you to make a change in your life. To help you out, here are some common goals people want to achieve through erotic hypnosis:

• Experience stronger orgasms
• Venture behind touch-less orgasms
• Build deeper connections with your partner
• Stay in the mood longer
• Move on from your trauma

2 Find the right hypnotherapist.

This is a crucial step if you want a legitimate experience in erotic hypnosis. If you don’t have a significant other or share no interest in doing it solo, this step is where you’ll lean towards the most. So put in good effort in searching for a hypnotherapist that suits your sexual needs and goals. Someone you can invest your trust in.

But to point out the elephant in the room, it won’t be easy to search for one. Even if you can look for them in online communities, it’s best to meet them in person before setting any dates for a session to see if you mesh well with them. Inquire them about their references, previous clients, or a license to practice.

On a personal level, consider your gut feelings as well. If you observe anything off about your prospective hypnotherapists, listen to it and go for them. They can probably sense something grave that you may not notice.

In the case wherein your goal is to move on from your trauma, a normal hypnotherapist can help you out. It’s because they’ll walk you through the moments before the incident and such, but this time, they’ll be your security blanket. Through this, you get to further work on the underlying issues, learn new coping mechanisms, and eventually move forward with your life.

3 Manage your expectations.

Once you already know your goals and have found a hypnotherapist, try not to set your expectations too high. Nothing new comes perfect the first time around. So before getting started, implant in your mind that the first session is a trial round. You’ll learn more about yourself as you get immersed and see what went right and wrong. Don’t resist from the failures; it’s more likely the hypnosis won’t work if you do so. Afterward, just keep trying again because your efforts won’t disappoint you.

4 Give consent.

Establishing consent is always important, even if it’s a top given in this situation. Between your hypnotherapist or partner, it must be present at all times. Whether it’s verbal or through a contract, consent is permission to do something between partners. Make sure to see eye to eye on every erotic hypnosis session you have so nobody gets hurt.

5 Discuss boundaries and goals, and stick to them.

A lot of things can occur in a session because the mind is a vast place. So it’s key to thoroughly talk with your hypnotherapist or partner about boundaries (hard or soft limits), preferences, and goals (again to be sure). An example would be not to be naked in the session. Think about the commands you or your partner want to order during the session (ex: orgasm on cue). Program a safe word in between in case things get overwhelming. Even include the hypnotherapist (if applicable) in setting boundaries, like them not being allowed to touch whoever is hypnotized.

Another thing with erotic hypnosis is that although you can lower your inhibitions and loosen up, your morals remain intact. You shouldn’t do anything that goes against them, so get clear on what you don’t want to hear or do in a session.

6 Try regular hypnosis first.

If the thought of erotic hypnosis intimidates you, seek a session of normal hypnosis from an average hypnotherapist first. It keeps things simple as you focus on getting a feel of what it means to be hypnotized; calm and aware of your surroundings. That way, it’ll be easier to venture into the world of the unconscious with your sexual desires.

7 Plan out how you want your sessions to go.

If you fail to plan, plan to fail. Once you have a more vivid outlook on your and your partner’s boundaries and goals, build a scenario around it. This is your time to get creative in the scripting process, brainstorming ways to bring out your desires or heighten them. Then from time to time, make sure to take turns in being the subject or the one in control.

8 Be gentle with yourself.

Erotic hypnosis isn’t a breeze in the park. You probably won’t get your picture-perfect session the first few times, which can get discouraging. Give yourself some grace and time before you get to that desired state. If you’re really dedicated, don’t give up just yet! However, remember that sex should be a fun, pleasurable experience for all, so don’t force yourself just to accomplish it.

9 Be teachable.

Admit to yourself that you don’t know everything in life. That way, it opens your mind to new information and curiosity to learn. So if you and your partner want to try erotic hypnosis, inviting a professional hypnotherapist can kickstart your journey well. You’ll learn how to control or be controlled along the way, but remember your ground rules. Then when you’ve acquired enough experience, slowly practice them on your own in your bedroom. But always be keen to learn new things, so there are fresher ways to spice your private time up.

10 Don’t rush.

Along your journey with erotic hypnosis, take your time all throughout. From building trust with your hypnotherapists, including sex toys, or experimenting with extreme kinks, don’t dive in so quickly out of indulgence. Like a trance, ease yourself into the process and take baby steps, so you and your partner don’t overwhelm yourselves and lose sparks for the activity.

Frequently Asked Questions

Still curious or hesitant about this sensual activity? Not to worry, we answered some queries about erotic hypnosis in the informative section.

1 Can erotic hypnosis be done offline and online?

Yes, although they both have their pros and cons. From having to search a little deeper for a qualified hypnotherapist to listening to expert-guided audios, it depends on your preference on how you want to act this practice out.

2 What’s the difference between erotic hypnosis and audio porn/ASMR?

Although there are physical sensations running through your body while being hypnotized and listening to audio porn/ASMR, you’re in a deeper state of mind with erotic hypnosis. Fully relaxed while actively playing the scenario, it goes beyond just fantasizing with audio porn and ASMR.

3 Is it normal to feel skeptical about this activity?

Yes. We’re so used to the idea that in having sex, you need to be physically awake. But alas, erotic hypnosis is there to unlock more sides of your sexual being and even show that orgasms are a product of the brain. Then again, if it works for you, then great! If it doesn’t, it’s alright. There are more sexual activities available in the buffet.

4 I tried this, but it didn’t work the first time. How can I solve this?

Try doing mindfulness activities that allow you to be more open, aware, and present in your surroundings. You can embark on yoga and intentional breathing, among many suggestions.

5 Is it possible to snap up from my trance?

Yes. If your hypnotherapist or partner unintentionally narrates a scene you don’t like, you’ll wake up because that doesn’t align with your views.

Takeaway

And that wraps up our beginner’s guide to Erotic Hypnosis! It may sound peculiar as others still view it as a taboo concept, but so many intriguing ideas emerge the more you delve into it. As long as you keep an open mind, you can connect with yourself or your partner sexually without your hands. Good luck and have safe fun on your journey to this activity, reader!