How to Properly Use a Prostate Massager (Yes to Prostate Play!)

Have you ever heard of a prostate massager? No, we’re not making this toy up.

No worries, we got you fully covered with this helpful guide. From how to properly use a prostate massager, we’ll discuss what it does and its benefits for penis owners. We also have some tips on having successful and safe play sessions with them, alongside an informative FAQ section at the bottom.

Let’s get started!

But First, What Is a Prostate?

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland found behind the penis. This is found in cisgender men or assigned males at birth.

It’s also in front of the rectum (around 2 inches away) and underneath the bladder, where the fluid used in semen is produced. Surrounded by nerve endings, this gland is highly sensitive. When aroused, it’ll swell up and be easier to feel and spot.

Called the p-spot or male g-spot, wherein when your fingers deeply curl into a “come-hither” motion towards it, it buzzes full-body pleasure and eventual orgasms. Those said orgasms are called prostate orgasms, which we’ll discuss in the next section.

Aside from finding the part directly through the anus, Healthline adds that you can stimulate this gland “indirectly through the perineum, or taint”. This is also known as the thin layer of skin underneath the scrotum to the anus. From the outside, the perineum is thicker by the front near the shaft. Then from behind, it’s softer and fleshier. This is the area you want to target!

Now, What Is a Prostate Orgasm?

A prostate orgasm occurs when the prostate is stimulated with pleasure. It’s even said to be more powerful than penile orgasms that can overtake your entire body. The fluid that can be ejaculated upon orgasm is called prostatic fluid, which resembles milk due to its milky texture and holds no sperm. Prostate orgasms can be achieved through the fingers or through the proper use of a prostate massager.

And Finally, What Is a Prostate Massager?

It’s a type of sex toy that targets, well, the prostate. Instead of fingers, the prostate massager can achieve such sensations even better due to other key factors. This toy can have various vibration levels, multiple motors, and temperature settings that you can take charge of.

The shape of the toy resembles a letter C, with one end being thinner and curved while the other is thicker and flared. Usually made of soft material like silicone, there are also prostate massagers made of non-silicone materials. Some examples are steel and even glass.

Benefits of a Prostate Massager

What makes a prostate massager an enjoyable contraption for penis owners? Let’s discuss some key benefits of this special toy, which may even urge you to get your own (or for your partner).

1 It’s more effective in bringing out orgasms for penis owners.

The orgasms released from prostate stimulation are called prostate orgasms, which are different from penile orgasms. With the latter, you need 4-8 muscles while prostate orgasms involve a dozen muscles. They also require time and effort to reach them. But when achieved, they’re said to be much more powerful and satisfying than penile orgasms due to the number of muscles used. So through the proper use of a prostate massager, you can unlock such sensations like never before.

2 There are numerous variations of this toy.

Don’t we just love range? Some prostate massagers can be small and snug enough to fit your hole, and even be used for public play (if you dare). But they can also be long and curved, so you thrust it deeper into you if prostate play is a big sexual preference. It’s all up to you on your preferences, though just know there are several types to choose from.

3 It’s prepped with silent vibrations.

If the buzzing or whizzing of sex toys bothers you, getting you out of your state of arousal, look no further with prostate massagers. A major feature in most of these toys is their whisper-quiet vibrations, wherein even under your bed, you won’t hear that unnecessary noise. Plus, your neighbors won’t be bothered to know your feisty actions.

4 It normalizes prostate play. 

Society loves excluding and stigmatizing a lot of things. But leave it to the people to constantly break the norms and such. As sex slowly becomes a topic we can only talk about, we get to normalize certain sub-topics in the process. We’d be able to freely discuss what others find pleasure in, and understand more the logic behind it.

In terms of prostate massagers, it breaks the taboo of penis owners having a toy stuck up their anus. For male pleasure, it’s more than just bobbing your penis up and down with your hand or doing the deed. Deep into their anatomy lies the prostate, a highly sensitive part capable of bringing full-body enjoyment when stimulated correctly.

The anus can still be a part of the body not many people have ventured into. But over time, as you learn your body more and even have a partner you trust, anything related to anal play shouldn’t be shunned.
In other words, there’s no harm in sticking a toy in your anus if it means experiencing fresh sensations. Let the prostate massager help and stretch you out.

5 It empowers penis owners to use sex toys.

Usually, females find a lot of confidence in using sex toys. That they know they don’t need anyone else to entrust their pleasure in. However, let’s not forget that males or penis owners also use sex toys. And it’s not something to feel ashamed of! Like *beep* what others have to say if they say you’re too weak to reach an orgasm or find someone to get a release with. Sex toys are for everyone intrigued to explore their sexual side, and prostate massagers are one of the gateways they can enter through.

How to Properly Use a Prostate Massager

Now that you know the benefits of this toy, it’s time we learn how to properly use a prostate massager. Keep reading this section to learn more.

1 Pick your desired prostate massager.

By this time, you’ve researched what the prostate massager is and how to properly use one. Well, aside from this article, of course. Now, you have to choose which one you want to get!

Discover what features you want in a toy. Do you want it to vibrate? Be app-controlled? Crafted with silicone or other material? Thinner? Longer? Shorter? Textured with a ribbed design? Ask questions like this within yourself to figure out your sexual preferences more.

Setting a budget is also important. Once you figure out the main features and your budget, it’s time to get toy hunting! Feel free to drop by our website here to get started.

2 Invite your partner.

A prostate massager can be properly used for solo or partner play.

Having an extra hand in the bedroom when you’re about to use a prostate massager amplifies the experience. Since it’s a new toy in your collection, you’ll be able to learn more about prostate orgasms together. Tell them about your interest in using the toy, tell them what it’s all about, and give them time to think it through. If they say yes to partner play, then leave them extra space in the bedroom. If not, you can resort back to solo play.

But, heads up! If your partner has any illness in the anus, such as anal fissures or hemorrhoids, it’s best not to let them join the activity.

3 Prepare the toy.

Before jumping into things, prepare the following as soon as you get the toy in the package. Clean it with soap and water, read its manual, and charge it. While charging, take this time to stock up on more knowledge on how to please your prostate or any errand/chore you need to accomplish. You can also start unwinding if you’re using this toy as a self-care activity.

4 Set the mood.

While your toy is drying up, take this time to arrange your external setting. Dim the lights of your room, light up scented candles, or double-check if your A/C is cool enough to make you comfortable. Setting the mood before using your prostate massager varies from person to person, as long as you are at ease with your surroundings.

5 Practice proper nail hygiene.

Remember that the skin surrounding the anus and prostate (or the perineum) is thin and prone to cuts, scratches, and microtears named fissures. It’s another reason prostate massagers are great alternatives, so we don’t accidentally affect the receiver’s skin down there. You can prevent these injuries by trimming or filing your nails beforehand. If you’re wearing any jewelry, such as rings, we suggest removing them before playing around with a prostate massager.

6 Get aroused.

The first step to sex or any sexual activity is building up your arousal. Your mindset must be in the right place. That way, you can feel all the pleasure to the max, especially when using a prostate massager later on.

If you’re with your partner, engage in foreplay, such as kissing and oral sex. Don’t hold back in physical touch to increase the tension and intimacy between you two. If you’re alone, you can rub or massage your sensitive spots while listening to or watching pornographic material. Breathe and move slowly while you touch yourself.

7 Lube up!

This step is especially important for anything related to the anus. Since this area doesn’t self-lubricate or get hard, maximizing your lube is crucial for using a prostate massager. That way, you won’t harm your prostate and avoid injuries.

A water-based lubricant is an ideal choice for a prostate massager if it’s made of silicone. If it’s not and/or indicates that silicone-based lubes are alright to use, then push forward with it.

8 Settle into a comfortable position.

As your entire body is aroused, it’s now time to properly use a prostate massager!

Head to your bedroom and find a position that’ll keep you comfortable the whole duration. You can choose to lie down and recline with your legs bent. This way, you’d catch a closer view of your butt. Place a pillow on your lower back not only for support but for the toy to stimulate you deeper.

Going doggy style is another suggestion, alongside placing a blanket or towel underneath so any discharges won’t stain the bed. We’ll delve deeper into this in the next section.

9 Carefully insert the toy.

The thinner, curved end is the tip of the toy, lubed up as you slowly slide inside the anus. The thicker end, which can be a flared base or holds vibrating properties, follows the direction of the penis.

Be patient with yourself here if your body tenses up or rejects the toy at first. Start with the tip, adjust to the feeling, then push the toy in further. If it’s really not working out, you can halt the session there and then use a smaller toy to pleasure you.

10 Explore the features of the toy.

Now that the prostate massager is properly in, let the play session begin!

If it’s packed with vibrations, venture through each setting from mildest to strongest. If it has more advanced features, like long-distance play, temperature settings, or more vibration modes, go ahead and check them out. Need batteries? Stock up in advance or check your storage if you have any. Challenged to try another size? Try a longer one after using your shorter one first.

Experiment with caution if you’re a beginner so your body doesn’t freak out. Stay at a level that you can handle.

11 Lay back and relax.

When you find a mode that you can take with your prostate massager, let the toy do its magic. Upon reaching new horizons and sensations, grip tight with those o’s! Take breaks if you need to catch your breath, then go at it again. Observe and enjoy your feelings and unravel as you properly use a prostate massager.

12 Don’t forget to clean up!

Once you’re satisfied with your play session with the toy, it’s hygienic to clean up before hitting the hay. You don’t want to compromise your health if you use a dirty toy.

Use soap and water together or a sex toy cleaner, then wipe it without any left-out discharges. Leave it out to dry and keep it safe in a pouch, whether it’s provided in the package of your toy or something you own prior.

Cleaning will always be a top priority on how to properly use a prostate massager, so never miss out on it.

Sex Positions to Try With a Prostate Massager

Various positions can reach and stimulate the prostate much easier and stronger. Switching it up occasionally also lessens any boredom you can experience over time. Explore through this steamy list of sex positions that you can try while properly using a prostate massager. Alone or with a partner too.

1 Open Book

A classic but a major goodie, especially if you’re starting out! Lie down on your bed, placing a cushion underneath your lower back for maximum comfort. Bend your legs as you elevate them and spread them open. Don’t forget to lube all over the parts of your body which will interact with the prostate massager. Once that’s settled, gently insert the prostate massager into your anus.

If you have a partner, let them manage the features of the toys. From the level of vibrations or how deep the toy is placed, give them instructions along the way.

2 Baby Boy

If you’re looking for an effortless sex position with your prostate massager, all you got to do is rest on your side. Similar to a fetal position, shift your body to the side. Your outer leg may naturally topple over in a bent position. Placing a pillow in between both your legs is also a big help as your muscles flex then ease up all throughout the play session.

3 Cobra

Flip over from your back and rest on your tummy for a change! But before that, slide the toy inside first. While lying on your stomach, stretch your legs and arms. You can bend your arms a bit too. Face up as you let the pleasuring buzzes wave all over your body.

4 Doggy Style

Time to get on all fours once the prostate massager is inside you! All you gotta do is part your arms and legs shoulder-length apart, then lift your butt up. Hold in your core, so you don’t fall off from your stance. This position is also great for beginners eager to explore anal play.

5 The Prostango

If you’ve become a pro, and enjoy doing this with a partner, heighten your bond through this heated position. Place the lubed prostate massager, then order your partner to lie down on the bed. Their legs must be spread open and up in the air, then hover over them. If with another AMAB, grind against their genitalia. If with an AFAB, or assigned female at birth, you can thrust inside of them while unraveling in backdoor action. Bonus points if your partner has control over the toy you’re using.

Tips on How to Properly Use a Prostate Massager 

Before we get into some deep, enjoyable prostate play with your toy, we have a bunch of important tips to remember. Stay safe as you venture into the world of prostate play through this informative section.

1 Start slow.

Incorporating something new into your sexual lifestyle takes time to be good at. Especially if it’s your first time trying anal play through using a prostrate massager, you’re bound to get through some challenges. If you’re patient enough, those challenges will ease up the more effort you put into them.

Listen to your body. If it needs a breather, take breaks and hydrate in between. If you’re feeling sore after having one orgasm, that’s okay. Only enjoy the toy to the extent of your stamina, and don’t go over it.

2 Make sure the toy has a strong base.

Although most prostate massagers have a defined base, some toys don’t have the feature. For that, choose a toy with a flared base, which is for easy pull out of the toy. If your toy doesn’t have that, you must stay aware, so it won’t slip inside.

3 Have your partner take charge of the toy.

As you run through each feature of the prostate massager, having your partner play around and use the controls is a game changer. Most especially if they’re app-controlled or come with a remote.

So if you’re having partner play, let your partner be in charge of your pleasure for the evening. Make sure they know how to properly use a prostate massager beforehand, having studied how it works and all. Even if they’re acquainted with your body, researching the toy before making their moves is extra helpful. Feel free to coach them along the way, then eventually give them full control of your needs and orgasms.

4 Get adventurous.

Playing around with a prostate massager is an adventure in itself. Why not keep that energy up?

Before properly using the prostrate massager, try inserting it through new positions. Or while the prostrate massager is inserted, your partner can pleasure you in another sensitive spot to achieve a blended orgasm. If the toy is app-controlled, and your partner doesn’t live with you, ask them to toy around with its long-distance features while you unravel in those o’s.

Those are some of our suggestions, though this is your chance to get creative and bold so make the most out of it!

5 Don’t miss out on aftercare.

After every sexcapade, doing aftercare is important. It ensures safety and respect with the parties and helps your body calm down after going through so much stimulation in one go.

If you’re with a partner, be respectful and clean up after them. Debriefing with each other helps communicate your needs more, working towards improvements and highlighting what went amazing. If alone, look after yourself, hydrate, and take a shower if you must.

Don’t forget to clean your toy too afterwards!

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Frequently Asked Questions

Still eager to learn more about how to properly use a prostate massager, or anything about the toy in general? Well, you came to the right place. Browse through this section to read through our answered queries on this sneaky sex toy.

1 Does using a prostate massager make me gay?

No. Anyone with a prostate, regardless of their sexual orientation, can use the toy for pleasure or curiosity. Even both.

2 Should I go to the bathroom first before getting started?

Yes. That way, your body is in the clear, and you won’t worry when there’s an urge to go.

3 Is the prostate massager similar to a clitoral vibrator?

Yes. They both stimulate certain parts of the body for pleasure, except the way they were designed is different in order to adjust to the different anatomies.

4 Is a prostate massager beginner-friendly?

Yes. Many prostate massagers have smaller sizes and simple controls for those still figuring out what features they enjoy in one. During this time of curiosity and experimentation, take this time to go through each one thoroughly without getting completely shocked and overwhelmed.

5 What’s the difference between a prostate massager and a butt plug?

Although they’re inserted in the same area, a butt plug doesn’t interact with the prostate, while a prostate massager does.

6 Will it hurt when I insert the toy?

For the first couple of times, it might cause discomfort because your body is trying to adjust to the shape. However, the more often you use the toy and keep your body prepared, the less discomfort there will be.

Takeaway

PProstate massagers are a great challenge to embark on when you want to step up your backdoor play. It’s time to end any stigma surrounding prostate play and give our men some curling o’s! From teaching you the proper use of prostate massagers, sex positions and tips on putting it into action safely, you’re more than ready to get started. Feel free to spread the buzzing word on prostate massagers to your partner or trusted friends, reader!