16 Clear Signs That You and Your Boo Are a Power Couple

When you think of a “power couple”, we can only bet that there are a lot of famous couples coming through your mind. Tom Holland and Zendaya. George and Amal Clooney. Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. Just to name a few.

But did you know that you and your boo can be your own power couple minus the fame?

In this article, we’ll discuss what it means to be such a couple, the traits associated with them, and a few tips that can help you achieve that status.

What is a Power Couple?

Defining a power couple is quite subjective, varying per person. 

For example, a power couple looks like two people who thrive individually and in their careers while also making time for each other. It’s that balance between the two that everyone craves, making a couple look powerful when they achieve it. Because, think about it, spending time with each other while managing work seems like a luxury. Yet with the right efforts, it can happen.

To gain a clearer insight, Therapist Marisa T. Cohen, Ph.D., LMFT, shared with Women’s Health that a power couple consists of partners in a stable relationship who support one another and turn to each other to keep each other safe. In other words, a power couple is rooted in mutual support and security. While they are happy together, they are just happy and independent as individuals.

Traits of a Power Couple

Now you may be wondering: what exactly makes up a power couple? Well, you can read through this section to learn more about each important trait of such a couple.

1 Their core values align with one another.

Being a power couple means that you and your partner have resonating views on your future, relationship, and individual lives. That would be due to your core values, fortifying your bond, and keeping things between you afloat.

Some examples of core values include mutual respect, accountability, honesty, loyalty, adaptability, and more. These core values also set the bare minimum in your relationship.

Let’s provide an example of this specific trait of a power couple. You and your partner treasure accountability in a relationship. Thus, whenever either of you makes a mistake, you instantly own up to it and apologize to each other. You’d also take the necessary actions to patch things up.

2 They can rely on each other.

As mentioned earlier, support and security are important factors in becoming a power couple. From there, it is easy and effortless to rely on each other during good and bad times. While valuing the importance of independence, it’s also important that we allow ourselves to be vulnerable with our partner and vice versa. It can feel scary, but it paves the way to becoming more open to your partner about the deepest parts of yourself. From there, it provides more security in your relationship.

3 They’re both independent.

You and your partner value your individuality, continuing to hone and tending to it. From your hobbies, interests, and other close relationships, you’ll never compromise them! It’s what makes you who you are.

Upholding and nurturing your individuality at a healthy level is possible even while you’re in a relationship. While they appreciate their time together, they also appreciate their individual time and matters just as much. You may even be okay with staying in the same room with one another but simply doing your own thing! It’s in being in each other’s presence that you feel at ease.

If you want to check if you’re independent, you can ask questions such as:

• Do I have me time and enjoy it wholeheartedly?
• Do I make time for my interests and hobbies?
• Do I hang out with my friends without my partner?

4 They have successful careers.

Success doesn’t directly translate to fame or esteemed positions. If you feel you’re performing splendidly in your career and are proud of it, then that’s a success. And if your partner feels the same about their job, then you two complement each other well. None of that competitive attitude when you’re both equally confident and thriving, even supporting each other too.

5 They can work together.

Teamwork makes the dream work. Individually, the parties in a power couple are strong. But put them together; their power is even greater! A power couple ensures that their shared goals are achieved just like their personal ones. They help each other, fulfilling more in the process. You both pull in your weight rather than having only one doing more work.

If there’s a task that requires both of their participation, they’ll put in equal effort to make it work. One example is if you’re hosting a gathering in your home, both of you collaborate in planning the food and activities needed for it. You can also help each other design your home for the event if necessary.

Additionally, compromising is also possible to make both parties happy rather than causing heavy conflict.

For example, you and your partner are planning where to eat for dinner tonight. You want Japanese food, while your partner wants Italian food. To avoid butting heads, you collectively decide on Chinese because it’s a cuisine you enjoy eating. It may not have been your first choice, but it’s reasonable since there are dishes you both like on their menu.

6 They have good, open communication skills.

A power couple needs this! Strong communication skills ensure that you’re always on the same page regarding your needs, thoughts, and desires. You’ve also addressed your boundaries to one another to protect you two individually and as a couple.

Alongside this, you wouldn’t feel discouraged to talk to them about anything because you both keep an open mind. There’s no topic that you both can’t discuss because, by that time, your boundaries are set.

Also by communicating properly and in real time, you and your partner avoid many misunderstandings and arguments.

7 They bring out the best in each other.

In a power couple, each partner encourages the other to reach for their goals with full drive and celebrates each other’s successes, small or big. Your win = their win. You’re also each other’s cheerleader, hypeman, and biggest fan! 

Alongside this, they teach each other new things so that they can reach their full potential. When you’re in a relationship like this, it only boosts the quality of your life and bond. They give you more purpose in life to succeed! 

8 They know each other’s love language.

Everyone has their own favored way of giving and receiving love from the people who matter most to them. Thus, it’s important to know these things so you can provide just what they need at the moment. 

The author of the famous book The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman, specifically defined 5 love languages which are:

• Physical Touch
• Gift-giving
• Quality Time
• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Services

By knowing yours and theirs, you and your partner would be able to express your love for one another in the right away. And by achieving that, being a power couple is close to your fingertips.

9 They can individually achieve their personal goals.

In line with having a healthy level of independence, you have a life outside of your power couple status. You’re not just defined as someone in a powerful relationship. And rather than viewing a relationship as something that holds you back like some people do, you view it as something that enhances their dreams and goals even more. From there, it just adds more discipline to continue working towards them.

10 They have a strong friendship before they officially got together.

Having a strong friendship with your partner is the foundation of a healthy relationship, paving the way to becoming a power couple. It’s how you know each other better, from your strengths to your weaknesses. You’ll also be acquainted with more traits and situations that’ll enlighten you on whether or not they make a good partner. Thus, you shouldn’t skip or take that phase lightly.

11 They’re open to try new things.

Whether it be things their partner likes or not, having an open mind to engage in new activities keeps a power couple together. For example, you like pilates, so your partner takes a class with you. Or both of you have an interest in attempting pottery, so you both enroll in a beginner’s class. Being open to trying new things invites growth in your relationship.

12 They balance each other.

A power couple understands that perfection cannot be attained. We all have flaws and strengths. However, whatever you may lack, your partner fills in those gaps. Complementing with our partner is not only fulfilling, but it also strengthens the relationship. 

For example, if you’re shy in social gatherings or settings, they break the ice for you when the both of you meet new people. They start things off, then when you get comfortable, you can freely converse with those said people.

13 They’re optimistic.

No one wants a boring relationship! While healthily acknowledging and validating their fluid range of emotions, power couples choose to look on the positive side of things. If a problem arises, there’s always a solution. If they want to accomplish a task, they’re positive they’ll do great. When setbacks come to the surface, they see them as opportunities and lessons for growth. 

14 They have a fun and healthy sex life.

What else is there to say about this? When you and your partner have such good communication skills, mutual respect, and strong chemistry, it’s only right that the sex department is thriving! If communication skills are great, they can effortlessly discuss what kind of sexual activities they want to try and share their thoughts about what can be improved. 

And while their levels of passion and intimacy for one another are strong, they prioritize each other’s safety throughout. The fun shouldn’t come at the expense of hurting someone. Oh, and aftercare? A non-negotiable for a power couple.

15 They carve out time for each other.

No matter how busy they can be with work or their individual goals, a power couple prioritizes spending time with one another. Quality time strengthens a relationship and keeps each other grounded. It’s also a way to check in on each other and catch up on what’s been happening in your individual lives!

It can be through having special date rituals (e.g., date night fridays or going to your favorite cafe on the weekends), doing a hobby together (e.g., going on a run or watching a movie), or anything domestic (e.g., doing groceries or cooking at home together).

In addition, they schedule these activities beforehand! But they are also open to spontaneity if time and their mood allow it. So co-dependency who? Never heard of it!

16 They’re emotionally intelligent and mature.

Many couples have yet to achieve these traits, but when they do, it can lead them down the path of power couple status. By having high emotional intelligence, 12 Week Relationships states that “they have a deep understanding of their own emotions and can empathize with their partner’s feelings.” From there, it can even lead to emotional maturity.

Having high emotional intelligence and maturity in a relationship aids when steering through challenges in a relationship, providing compassion and support for one another. You’ll also be able to understand each other more and where you’re coming from.

How to Achieve Power Couple Status

In this section, we’ll explore a few yet effective ways to achieve such status. As long as you both dedicate yourself and work, you can be your own power couple!

1 Set boundaries.

One of the most important tips we can give in this guide! In a power couple, each partner has the right balance of individuality and being a significant other. In the process of achieving that balance, setting boundaries is crucial. And it’s also healthy for your relationship. For example, if your partner takes up too much of your personal time, you can say “I love you, but I need some time for myself right now.”

2 Open up to one another.

Talking to one another enhances your emotional connection and intimacy. When hardships come up, you’d both be able to work them out easily. If you ask each other about your days, you can unwind and refresh for the night together.

Or if you bring up your goals, you can confide in each other to be each other’s supporters. But alongside talking, you need to be a good listener too. That way, it’s a mutual exchange of emotions.

3 Be there for one another with various life changes.

Change is the most constant thing in the world. And a couple who openly embraces change and life transitions stay together. That’s how you grow individually and together. It can be a challenge, but if you’re both able to adapt, you’d both rise stronger and better in the long run.

Takeaway

There’s more to the glitz and glam that a power couple exhibits, especially those under the spotlight. Committing and strengthening your relationship requires consistent work and effort. Most of all, it’s important to prioritize a relationship that makes you feel good rather than look good. The latter is just a bonus. With the right balance of independence and being a great significant other, communication, and genuine love and support for one another, being a power couple is possible to achieve.