The 11 Sex Personalities Backed Up By A Sexual Therapist

Did you know there are numerous sex personalities out there that sum up your personal thoughts and views on sex? This system is made possible by a renowned sex therapist named Vanessa Marin M.S., who devoted a lot of research and listened to her clients talk about sex for more than a decade. That way, people can identify what kind of identity they hold in a sexual lens.

This system is even more helpful when you’re seeking a new relationship. After all, it’s been said that couples who are satisfied during their sexy time have a happier relationship as a whole. 

Get to know more about these various sex personalities throughout this mini guide. Perhaps you’ll find the ones you resonate with the most along the way. We also owe it to this podcast for helping us out.

1 The Decompressor

What’s a common word we can associate with the word decompress? Stress.

We decompress some internal steam to become less tense and more at ease. That’s what this kind of sex personality about, wherein people enjoy sex as a way to release stress and other negative emotions within them. They also like the after-effects of relaxation and calmness or that state of sex afterglow, even putting you to sleep even. Owe it to the endorphins and dopamine there.

Orgasms matter to you the most as they can bring up such feelings in your body. Hence, you wouldn’t miss out on that when you engage in sex, whether it be solo or with your boo.

2 The Explorer

The purpose of an explorer is to discover new things that have never been seen by anyone else. In terms of sex, this sex personality likes venturing and learning new practices surrounding it. You go beyond your box, eager to see what goes beyond. And if not trying out new things, you can simply admire the variety and novelty that sex can bring. It’s not that serious whether you like something or not. The fact you now know something sparks a thrill in you.

3 Fair Trader

It’s better to give and receive at the same time when it comes to sex. No discrepancies here. This sex personality values reciprocity and balance, wherein you ensure there’s a mutual exchange of efforts during the deed. For example, you check in with your partner who’s a giver to see if they’re having a good time and vice versa. Everything related to your sexual needs must be open and clear so you benefit every time you have sex.

4 The Giver

Quite self-explanatory, right? 

Being this sex personality provides you with a mindset of sex as a gift you want to give your partner. If your love language is gift-giving, then it just makes sense to have this sex personality. You find more value in making your partner feel good, feeling connected to their needs and desires than yours. But that’s okay; knowing that you can please them already brings you satisfaction and pleasure.

5 The Guardian

This sex personality means that you highly regard trust, safety, and security during the deed with your partner. Setting direct boundaries and limits between you two and expressing clear, verbal consent beforehand matters a lot to you. This type can come around in various ways. One way arises from people experiencing sexual abuse or negative sexual experiences. Another way can be simply enjoying receiving that sense of safety and security prior to and all throughout the deed.

6 The Passion Pursuer

You thrive on experiencing strong, intense sexual experiences. The rise of passion and wildness between you and your partner brings you two closer. Such intense energy can make your worlds stand still, wherein it’s simply just the both of you enjoying each other’s company in the bedroom. You wouldn’t mind losing yourselves in the pleasure.

7 The Pleasure Seeker

Sex to you is all about receiving. You simply want to feel good and alive in the bedroom! Simple as ABC. Plus, it doesn’t matter who you’re with. As long as you’re feeling your body against someone else’s, you’re already having an amazing time. 

8 The Prioritizer

Having this sex personality means that sex is a priority in your relationship. A non-negotiable even.

It doesn’t matter how busy or tired you may be during the day; you’ll always make time for sex or to be intimate. You may even build a consistent routine around it or even set up a proper sex schedule so neither of you forget.

9 The Romantic

Yes, romantics still exist in this world!

And in terms of sex, they put importance on the emotional connection and intimacy they build with their partner. Less on the physical, and more on sweet acts of affection during their love-making. They may even like a slower pace as they want to be in the moment and cherish each second with their partner.

10 The Spiritualist

Identifying yourself as this sex personality can mean that sex leads you to a much higher purpose. That sex is something bigger than you and the world around you even. It transcends anything. 

11 The Thrill-Seeker

If you’re someone who finds exhilaration and pleasure in doing things that are considered taboo or even forbidden, this sex personality type is for you. You wouldn’t mind venturing through some kinks and BDSM practices like power play (dom/sub) to truly maximize your sexual experiences. There’s nothing too extreme for you, although you still have your boundaries and limits. You may even use BDSM toys here too!

How can I figure out my sex personality?

For sure, you’ve pinpointed a few personalities in the previous section. But if you want something more personalized and certain, you can take its designated online quiz from Dr. Marin’s website here.

By knowing your sex personality, it can also connect you to people whom you are sexually compatible with. Being sexually compatible with one another develops trust since sex is an intimate activity regardless of the set-up. Thus, it allows you two to be on the same page with one another. Plus, there’s better and more open communication as time passes. 

Takeaway

Sex personalities give you a more distinct idea of how you view sex as a whole. Although you’re not limited to just one, it comes to show sex varies per person. With that, it can help in getting to know your existing partner more or provide a clearer idea of who your prospective partner can be. For some, this concept can be lighthearted or something worth a deep discussion. Regardless, sex personalities grant you another aspect of your identity, allowing you to grow a strong connection within yourself.