8 Ways To Balance Out Your Masculine Energy

Disclaimer: While this article on masculine energy offers insights, it’s not meant to replace professional guidance. Since everyone’s journey is distinct, for advice that’s customized just for you, it’s worth reaching out to a spiritual adviser, life coach, or another expert who understands your unique perspective.

That boss-like energy when you hustle hard to achieve your goals and dreams? That’s caused by masculine energy within you. There’s nothing wrong about it as it does push you to get where you aspire to be. However, an excess amount of it may only harm you in the long run.

In this guide, we’ll discuss this type of energy more and how having too much of it is not a good thing. But no worries — we have tips on how to balance it out.

What is Masculine Energy?

Masculine energy involves a series of spiritual traits and qualities that one can channel. And by one, we’ll focus more on the ladies, even if this type of energy can be found in everyone, all males and females!

Some traits and qualities include being dominant, strong, powerful, logical, competitive, and assertive. Wanting respect and admiration and having the hustle-and-bustle mindset also fall under this category. Another important aspect of masculine energy is the need for structure and rules in their day-to-day lives. Hence, CXO Media quotes this type of energy as “stable and more predictable,” adding that it’s rooted in “doing and being action-oriented.” 

The counterpart of masculine energy is feminine energy, which focuses on nurturing, empathy, and gentleness.

Having traits under the spectrum of masculine energy is not a negative thing. In fact, it’s a natural part of our being, coexisting with feminine energy. Think of yin and yang: they oppose each other but also balance each other. This duality is within us, guiding us everywhere we go, and providing a sense of harmony and balance. 

Balancing both these energies, especially your masculine energy can come with the following benefits:

1. Ability to protect yourself and those around you.
2. Embodying physical, mental, and emotional strength.
3. Ability to solve problems with rational thinking and logic.
4. Making big and small moves on your goals.
5. Eyes are always on the prize.
6. Natural boss and leader

Is There Such Thing as Too Much Masculine Energy?

Yes! Too much masculine energy can create an imbalance within a person, affecting their lifestyle and relationships.

This can be caused in numerous ways, some of which we quoted from BY KATERINA. Those possible reasons include:

1. Embarking on roles on the masculine side out of survival (e.g., acting as a second parent to other members of the family)
2. Experiencing abuse, violence, and discrimination as a woman (e.g., working in a male-dominated field)
3. Being raised in a household that favors men
4. Rebelling over societal norms
5. Living with a female guardian (e.g., mother) with a lot of masculine energy

A lot of the time, someone is filled with too much masculine energy as a means of survival. It gives you power when threats come at you, wherein you can fend for yourself and avoid being weak. 

How Too Much Masculine Energy Looks Like

Browse through this section to learn more about how an excess of masculine energy in you can manifest and affect your life.

1 You come off as aggressive.

When you’re driven to get things done or interact with anyone, you become overassertive. You take a more dominant and rather forceful approach to them, which can be deemed aggressive and uninviting because you’d think this person is trying to one-up you. But that’s not the case.

2 You’re hyper-independent.

In the words of Mr. Incredible, “I work alone.”

You prefer things that way, wherein you’re in control and in charge of how things run in your life. Other people’s help is deemed unnecessary, rejecting them and saying that you can do it on your own. Hence, you isolate yourself from the rest and prefer solo progress to a joint one.

3 You’re always on the go.

Call yourself booked and busy on the daily; a proud workaholic! 

But honey, praising that kind of energy of overworking isn’t something to be proud of.

Having too much masculine energy has you working nonstop, and it’s usually your choice too. You don’t like breaks, or you tend to skip them. Even forget about them. And if you find yourself in one, you’d get bored so quickly and then search for the next big event or project you can pour yourself into. In other words, you crave action and movement in your life and nothing to stop you as you pursue them. 

Aside from this, you may even find yourself forgetting to eat and catch a short breather too. 

4 You experience intimacy problems.

When it comes to being intimate and sexual, you have difficulty tuning into the mood because of the vulnerability and closeness that comes along with it. You also lack or don’t have that much-needed empathy to connect with them. As a result, you’d feel more distant from one another. It’ll be difficult to enjoy the emotional aspect of sex even while your bodies are in sync. And it can be frustrating!

Another way you can experience intimacy problems is your need to be dominant and in control, wherein your needs are more valuable than theirs. But in reality, both your needs are equally important and require equal reciprocation. If you come, they should too.

5 You’re controlling.

Masculine energy is all about power. You don’t want to share it because you’re not sure if your co-worker can do what you do. Or maybe you want to keep all that power to yourself, using it only for your own good.

Aside from a work perspective, you can also be controlling in a relationship. It can manifest through criticizing your partner, making decisions for them, always initiating dates or outings together, wanting to be involved in everything they do, and demanding so much from your partner. These factors violate their personal boundaries, not giving them enough space and time to reciprocate their feelings to you.

6 You’re very self-critical.

Having a lot of masculine energy means hustling as hard as you can to be the best, to make a big contribution. You set the bar high for yourself, where there’s no room for failure. Hence, you’re also likely to have perfectionist tendencies. However, when the highs are high, the lows are low. It’s hard to forgive yourself when you fail at some, focused on blaming yourself and giving yourself such negative self-talk because you want to excel badly.

7 Your validation is based on external surroundings.

And by external surroundings, it can be through material wealth and people’s opinions of you. Mostly on the positive side. Rather than self-affirming, you’re reliant on what others have to say about you and the things you have. That’s where you gain your worth and confidence from.

8 You don’t like being vulnerable.

You choose to bottle up any stress you have, leaving you to solve it yourself even if you aren’t sure of your solution. It’s because stress shows weakness in handling a situation, and weakness shows vulnerability. It’s scary because anyone, especially your enemies, can attack you when they see any signs of it. And since masculine energy caters to protecting oneself, you’ll do what it takes to build some walls and cover up what could be an avenue for people to hurt you. 

Instead, you’d prefer to deal with your own problems on your own.

9 You come off as cold.

You don’t like being attuned to your emotions. viewing them as weak and unnecessary, fully centered on logic and being rational. So when you push yours away, you’re more likely to ignore others’ emotions as well. Intentionally and unintentionally. In other words, you have little to no empathy.

Alongside this, you’re least likely to express love and affection to those around you. This is crucial if you want to have long-time companions and make good memories with them. In fact, this effect is also because… 

10 You have a hard time building relationships.

When you fully absorb yourself in power and dominance, there’s no room for collaboration and empathy. And when you struggle with that, connecting and making friends will be a challenge. The best way to build long-lasting relationships is the ability to understand and listen to them; to be open with them! But if you’re not willing and keep to yourself, it causes more strain and conflict in your relationships or even in the temporary encounters you face daily.

How to Balance Out Masculine Energy

If you’re struggling to find just the right amount of masculine energy, this section has tips that may help you solve that problem bit by bit.

1 Allow yourself to make a decision based on your emotions.

We get that it’s usually easy and more practical to decide with your mind rather than your heart. The heart can deceive you at times, but the mind can too! Why do you think the term “mind games” exists? 

But besides the point, letting your emotions have a role in decision-making allows you to be authentic and intuitive. Those two factors can be more valuable when logic falls short. And if you have to make a decision that revolves around a relationship, it can foster mutual respect and deeper understanding with that person.

Another reason emotions are helpful in making a decision is that they help you keep a more open mind, directing you to new possibilities that logic wouldn’t lead you to.

2 Be gentler and softer on yourself.

Masculine energy is all about protection, survival, and strength. But within those traits, you have to learn how to take things easier on yourself too. To be soft and gentle as you take care of yourself! Things can’t always be intense in your life.

Treating yourself with gentleness and softness for yourself provides you with more self-compassion, extending kindness and patience during times of struggle and challenges. It also teaches you resilience and betters your coping during those tough times. Another way being gentle and soft keeps you balanced is by teaching you self-acceptance. 

Rather than just relying on your material wins and the opinions of others to feel validated, you find validation within yourself as you give recognition to your inner worth and strengths. Plus, you’d view yourself in a much healthier way, feel more at peace, and won’t give in to any sort of people-pleasing.

3 Carve out time for self-care and relaxation.

Being constantly on the go and working like there’s no tomorrow will eventually burn you out and/or even put you in a slump. That’s because you use up a lot of fuel whenever you work. And like a car, you need to refuel whenever you can to get moving again. You can’t function on an empty tank. Refueling and recharging, in your case, manifests best through embarking on relaxing rituals and focusing on self-care. Those 3 things look differently per person.

Relaxation rituals can look like taking 5 to 10-minute breaks in between every task, having an afternoon nap, or trying out yoga. As for self-care, it can be through your favorite sport, your creative outlet,  

4 Reconnect with your emotions.

With too much masculine energy in your system, you’ve suppressed your emotions far off on the backend. Hence, we come off as cold and aggressive. One small action step you can take to reconnect with your emotions is practicing mindfulness. Get to know them by observing and naming them. You can even talk to them; ask them what’s going on, why they’re there, and how you can fix them. It also helps to list down what kinds of things are associated with those feelings (e.g., stress – forgetting your laptop).

Another way to reconnect with your emotions is to list the different sensations in your body. Have an open heart here as you do a full-body scan. For example, you may feel mild tension around your neck, your legs feel sore, or your stomach grumbles.

5 Understand that asking for help is okay.

No man (or woman) is an island. We are social beings! 

In other words, we don’t have to shoulder the entire weight of the world on our shoulders on our own. Hence, you have to accept that you can’t handle everything and then reach out to others for help and guidance. There’s no shame in that! If that’s a belief you’ve acquired growing up, it’s time to take steps to unlearn it.

Asking for help allows you to gain extra support and advice that’ll aid you during tough times. But first, it’s important to establish valuable relationships with your family and friends! If you work on that, then you’ll be able to have a strong support system behind your back. 

6 Express love in small ways.

Emphasis on small ways because it may be a challenge to give love after suppressing it for so long.

However, it’ll be worth it. Love nurtures yourself and those around you, balancing your masculine and feminine energies. Expressing love can vary for each person, especially with varying love languages. For some, a small action of love can be buying them their favorite candy. Then for others, spending quality time, like even a short 15-minute break, would be beneficial enough to bond with them. 

Physical touch may take a while, but every once in a while, a warm hug may be nice.

7 Take the back seat every now and then.

You don’t always have to be in charge of everything. Even if it’s what makes you feel safe, it can just burn you out and even lessen your trust in others in the long run. Being able to rely on others can strengthen your bond and give you a much-needed break every now and then. Even if things don’t work out, at least you gave that companion a chance to show who they are and it’s an avenue to build your relationship even further.

8 Surround yourself with other women.

Sometimes, having too much masculine energy is due to the lack of female companions in your life. Most especially those who are confident in their feminine side and embody stable feminine energy. Hence in this day and age, it’s raved and encouraged to build strong friendships with other women. It’ll teach you to open your heart more, explore more, nurture yourself more, and not take life too seriously. 

Plus, having female friendships only motivates you to be your best self, wherein both your masculine and feminine energies are balanced.

Takeaway

Having masculine energy is a part of being human regardless of energy. It has a unique set of traits that aid us in unleashing our full potential and achieving our goals. However, it must be carefully balanced with our feminine energy to ensure overall happiness. We hope this guide enlightens you more about this kind of energy and preps you with the tools needed to rebalance yourself.