10 Ways to Use Blindfold During Sex (Eyes Closed, Legs Open!)

aWanna spice up your sexual plays without spending on new items? Here’s a simple trick: blindfold your partner. You can easily find something in your closet to cover their eyes, and depriving them of sight can lead to incredibly steamy activities. In this guide, we’ll share the best activities to try with blindfold sex, along with some suggested items you can use as a blindfold.

Benefits of Blindfold Sex

Seeing the naked action is part of what makes sex great, but blindfold sex has lots of perks up in its sleeve. Below are some of its noteworthy benefits:

1It heightens your other senses.

When a person is blindfolded during sex, they may find themselves focusing on other senses, like their sense of smell or touch. As a result, their other senses are heightened— silk sheets seem smoother, the fragrance of the scented candle is more noticeable, the partner’s whispers sound clearer, and pleasurable sensations feel stronger.

2It loosens your inhibitions.

Do you ever feel a bit self-conscious when your partner gazes at you during sex? Maybe you’re worried about your tummy being extra flabby or that they might find your sexual reactions a little odd. Don’t worry about feeling this way, as this is just part of being human; even people in secure relationships can feel some awkwardness in the bedroom.

Being blindfolded during sex can help you let go of those inhibitions and awkward thoughts. Without seeing your partner, you’re more likely to focus on the sensations and the pleasure you’re experiencing in the moment, allowing you to fully immerse yourself in the experience.

3The unpredictability can be thrilling.

According to an article from Harper’s Bazaar India, “Great sex is often like an iceberg; the actual act is just the tip of it.”

There’s a lot of truth to this statement. Building anticipation, engaging in foreplay, and practicing aftercare are essential aspects of satisfying sex. These elements are like the appetizers and desserts in a meal— they may not be the main course, but they elevate the dining experience.

This is why investing in activities that build sexual anticipation is essential, such as blindfold sex. Not being able to see what your partner is doing or knowing that your partner has no idea what’s coming next can be incredibly exhilarating.

The heightened sense of anticipation can make the experience even more intense. Once the blindfolds come off, you might find yourselves jumping into each other’s arms and diving right into the action.

4It breaks the sexual routine.

Feeling stuck in a sexual routine with your partner? Spice things up with a blindfold! It’s great for building anticipation and removing inhibitions, plus it’s often linked with other kinks like BDSM, impact play, and roleplaying. Using a blindfold can open the door to exploring these unconventional activities, adding a new dimension to your sensual adventures.

Blindfold Options

Ready to explore blindfold sex but unsure what to use for your first session? As mentioned, you don’t need to buy a new blindfold—anything you have at home can work. However, if you want to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable experience for your blindfolded partner, here are some items that work particularly well for this activity:

1Sleeping Mask

A standard sleep mask is a great (and obvious) option for a blindfold. They’re usually made from soft materials, so your partner will stay comfortable throughout the session.

The only issue might be the look of your sleep mask— especially if it’s one of those cute or cartoonish ones. Imagine trying to spank someone with a Hello Kitty eye mask on; it might not exactly fit the mood! So, while sleep masks are comfy, ensure the design won’t kill the vibe.

2Necktie

No sleep mask in sight? Don’t worry— just check your closet for a silk necktie. There’s something undeniably sultry about the smooth texture of a silk tie, making it a fantastic choice for a blindfold. Plus, neckties have a bit of a sexy reputation, thanks in part to their frequent appearance in erotica and sensual movies like Fifty Shades of Grey.

3Silk Scarf

Another fantastic option is a silk scarf. Just like a silk necktie, the smooth and silky material feels incredible against the skin. Plus, silk scarves are often found in women’s closets, so if you don’t have a sleep mask or a tie handy, you might find one of these tucked away.

4Thigh High Sock

If your partner finds thigh-high socks sexy or has a foot-related kink, you might want to consider using a thigh-high sock as a blindfold.

Not only is it a unique and playful choice, but using your own socks, especially worn ones, can add an extra touch of intimacy and personal connection, as it carries a bit of that “worn-in” appeal that some find particularly alluring. Make sure the sock isn’t too dirty for good measure.

5Undergarments

Looking for something even more personal than a thigh-high sock? Consider levelling it up with your own undergarments. There’s something incredibly sultry about using your lacy panties or boxers as a blindfold. If your partner is open to it, you could wear the undies for a while before using them to add a subtle, personal scent. Non-underwire bras, lingerie, and other personal garments can also work well.

6BDSM Eye Mask

Consider investing in a BDSM eye mask. These masks are typically made from leather, nylon, or other durable materials and come with a mystic and sexy appeal that regular items often lack. Designed for kinky plays, they often feature intricate details like lace or studs that add a touch of raunchiness. Not only that, but they’re built to withstand more intense use.

7BDSM Rope

Got some BDSM rope lying around in your bondage gear? You can use it as a blindfold, too. Wrap the rope around your partner’s eyes and knot it securely to keep it in place.

Make sure the rope has a smooth finish—cotton, bamboo, polypropylene webbing, and nylon ropes work well. Avoid natural ropes like hemp, sisal, or coconut, as their coarse texture can be uncomfortable and potentially damaging. Don’t also forget to keep a rope cutter within reach. This ensures you can quickly and safely remove the rope in case of any emergencies.

8Bondage Tape

If you have bondage tape in your kinky collection, you can also use it for blindfold sex. Bondage tape is a plastic-based strip that sticks to itself but not to hair or skin, ensuring a comfortable experience for everyone involved.  It’s versatile and can be used not just as a blindfold but also as handcuffs, full-body restraints, or even a chest binder. Wrap the bondage tape around your partner’s eyes, and you’re all set!

Blindfold Sex Ideas

After getting a blindfold, you might be wondering what to do next. Well, there are various sexual activities that you can do with a blindfold, and we’ve listed some of them below:

1Go for an erotic massage.

A great warmup activity would be an erotic massage. Once your partner has lied down and been blindfolded, use your hands to explore every inch of their body, starting with their back, thighs, and shoulders.

As the session continues, you can then slowly move your hands to their erogenous zones, like their butt cheeks, inner thighs, breasts, and other intimate areas. You can go all in and proceed with a lingam (penis) or yoni (vulva) massage or stop right there, teasing their body and leaving them longing for more.

What’s great about this activity is that it builds anticipation and helps your partner relax, arousing them more. For a more arousing experience, use a massage candle or warming oil to bring some much-needed sizzle.

2Restrain their other senses, too.

If your partner is up for it, you can take it up a notch by restraining their other senses. Use earplugs to minimize their hearing, mouth gags to stop them from talking, and handcuffs or bed restraints to limit their movement. Once you’ve added all the restraints, you can proceed with teasing and pleasing their body.

Depriving them of multiple senses amplifies the sensitivity of their remaining senses, making each touch, whisper, or kiss more intense. However, be mindful of the level of restraint, especially if your partner is new to this. Too much sensory deprivation can elicit panic, so start with a beginner level of restraint to ensure a comfortable experience.

3Play “Hide and Sex.”

We highly recommend trying this sultry activity if you have a spacious apartment or bedroom. It’s essentially a game of hide-and-seek with a sexy twist. The blindfolded partner will count to ten while their partner hides somewhere within the designated area. Once the count is complete, the blindfolded partner must navigate and try to find their hidden partner within a specific duration.

The excitement and anticipation build as the seeker feels their way through the space, heightening their other senses. If the seeker successfully finds their partner, they can be rewarded with something pleasurable, such as a few minutes of oral sex or another sensual treat. Suppose they don’t find their partner within the time limit. In that case, they receive a playful punishment— perhaps a light spanking or the requirement to fulfill a fantasy or desire of the hidden partner.

4Give them a good ‘ol spanking.

Another fun sexual activity that you could do is impact play. This involves light spanking on safe zones such as the buttocks, legs, and thighs, using hands, whips, or paddles. Impact play can range from gentle, teasing taps to more intense, rhythmic spanking, depending on the comfort and preferences of both partners.

Before diving in, it’s crucial to establish clear communication and consent. This activity requires planning ahead, as you’ll need to discuss expectations, desires, and boundaries beforehand. It’s also better to start slowly and gradually build up the intensity, always checking in with your partner to ensure they enjoy the experience.

5Play with ice and fire— well, sort of.

As mentioned earlier, being blindfolded heightens your other senses, such as your sense of touch. This is why sexual activities that involve teasing the other senses, like temperature play, are highly recommended.

For those who are new to the concept, temperature or sensation play is a sexual practice where one partner teases the other with different temperatures. They may graze an ice cube along their partner’s inner thigh, massage their partner’s buttocks with warming oil, or trickle steamy droplets of BDSM wax on their partner’s back. This practice is often used to build anticipation, but some couples take it further by incorporating sex stimulants, ice cubes, or other items that elicit instant cool or warm sensations.

To engage in temperature play, ensure all items are body-safe and within easy reach. Discuss boundaries and preferences with your partner beforehand.

Begin with something gentle, such as a light massage using warming oil. This helps relax your partner and prepares them for more intense sensations. Gradually introduce contrasting temperatures by using ice, then switch back to warmth with a massage candle, and then return to cool with a chilled glass dildo. It’s up to you which items to use, but always prioritize safety and communication to ensure a pleasurable experience for both partners.

6Let them undress you.

If you love the hide-and-sex idea above, you may like this one too. For this activity, you’ll ask the blindfolded partner to undress you. It’s pretty challenging, but that’s what makes it so fun!

The blindfolded partner must rely on their sense of touch to find buttons, zippers, and other fastenings, heightening the excitement. Not only does it add an element of playfulness, but it also allows your partner to touch and explore your body, which can be incredibly arousing for both of you.

7Tease and tickle!

Another sexual activity that works well when someone is blindfolded is tickling. You can use your hands or a BDSM tickler to tease your partner’s most sensitive spots. Not only does it have a playful charm, but some people are also turned on by tickling. Some individuals even reach sexual satisfaction from it.

There’s a recent study involving 719 participants solidifying the claim that tickling can result in sexual pleasure. However, it’s important to note that the survey links were primarily disseminated within tickle fetishism communities on Twitter, so the findings may not fully represent the broader population.

8Masturbate together.

As we’ve mentioned earlier, blindfold sex removes your inhibitions, creating an environment where you can freely explore your desires. This makes it an excellent time to try mutual masturbation.

Without the conscious thoughts that often hold us back, you can focus solely on the sensations. The heightened pleasure from your restrained senses will also amplify the experience.

To start, find a comfortable position where you can be close to each other. You might sit facing each other or lie side by side— both of you must be blindfolded in this activity. As you begin to touch yourselves, listen to their breathing, feel the heat of their body, and sync your rhythms. You can also introduce sex toys, such as vibrators, clit suckers, fleshlights, or strokers for further pleasure.

9Glide a tip vibrator across their skin.

If you’re not interested in getting bondage gear but still want to try blindfolded sex, opt for vibrators that provide pinpointed vibrations, like a tip vibrator. What’s great about this toy is that all the vibrations are concentrated at its small tip, delivering intense sensations every time it touches your skin.

Guide the blindfolded partner to the couch or bed and get them into their preferred position. Turn on the toy, then gently the tip over sensitive areas such as the nipples, inner thighs, and neck. The blindfolded partner won’t know where the next touch will be, which adds an element of surprise and heightens anticipation.

10Read them some erotica.

Another interesting sex-tivty you can try while your partner is blindfolded is reading them erotica. Without any visual cues, their imagination can run wild as you sensually narrate a steamy story. This creates a mental and emotional connection, allowing them to fully immerse themselves in the narrative.

To make things even spicier, consider touching them in the areas where the character in the story is being touched. For example, if the story describes a character caressing their partner’s breasts, you can simultaneously massage your partner’s breasts, drawing them deeper into the story.

Takeaway

And that concludes our brief guide to blindfold sex. Whatever activities you choose to explore, remember to follow safe sex practices, such as using contraceptives and lubricants. Establish clear consent with your partner, and constantly check in with them before, during, and after your play. Enjoy!