Simultaneous Orgasms: How To Successfully Orgasm Together

There’s nothing hotter than coming at the same time with your partner. Your lungs heaving for air as your muscles clench and release from the pleasure. You’re so in sync with each other, deepening your bond at the moment. 

If you’re craving for this kind of orgasm, then keep on reading this short guide about it down below!

What is a Simultaneous Orgasm?

A simultaneous orgasm is when you and your partner orgasm at the same time. Or at least a few seconds or moments from each other. You’re both at the same or similar levels of that sexual bliss. Such an orgasm is achievable through certain factors, which we’ll get into that more later. Other than that, the various media showing couples having sex and coming at the same time is legit.

Perks of a Simultaneous Orgasm

Unlock the benefits of this kind of orgasm through this fun section.

1 It’s rewarding.

While a simultaneous orgasm is achievable, it may take a few tries to get there. Lots of hard work and communication are needed to truly understand each other’s sexual sides. So when the day arrives when you have sex and sync your o’s, it feels like a win and increases your enjoyment with each other.

2 You learn more about each other.

Communication is key when trying to achieve a simultaneous orgasm. Along the way, you understand your varying sexual response cycles, favorite kinks, non-negotiables, and boundaries.

3 It releases a lot of stress.

In general, sex and orgasms are known to be stress relievers. For instance, many endorphins are released, which act as pain relievers that then encourage feel-good behaviors and a more positive mood overall. No wonder people do the deed when their stress levels are up top.

How to Orgasm Together With Your Boo

Unlock the magic of a simultaneous orgasm with this list of helpful tips.

1 Uncover what builds up your sexual pleasure.

How can you jump straight into partnered sex with this goal of an orgasm in mind without knowing what makes you reach an o’? Not knowing those things would make it impossible for your partner to know either. So it’s important to do this first before involving your partner.

2 Learn about your partner’s sexual pleasure.

Once you know what makes you feel good in the bedroom, it’s a good time to note down what makes them feel good sexually. This tip is a back-and-forth discussion of giving and receiving information, already strengthening your connection and bond. Alongside this, it eases off the pressure of reaching that very o’ and run your own, shared pace.

3 Connect and be in sync with your partner.

Given that you and your partner have varying sexual responses, it’s important to pay attention to how they’re feeling and doing in bed. Plus, it’ll feel natural because you’d want to meet them until the end. In case your o’ is about to happen and your partner is not yet close, slow down. Move in slower motions, almost like you’re edging yourself. In the meantime, boldly kiss their lips and neck or give them lots of dirty talk to pace yourself.

4 Don’t be goal-oriented.

Yeah sure, the goal here is to have a simultaneous orgasm. But that shouldn’t be the only thing you’re focusing on. Because in case you don’t achieve it, you’ll view this sexcapade as a disappointment or failure in your task. Hence, being goal-oriented ruins the fun surrounding sex.

Instead, you must be present with the process of achieving it, from trying out different sex positions, kinks, and toys. Moreover, you should really grasp the moment you’re in and further learn about your partner’s sexual response. 

In turn, Flo advises to view a simultaneous orgasm as a bonus.

5 Explore each other’s erogenous zones more.

Don’t just stick to penetration! While you’re doing the deed, your partner can play with your nipples or you slap their butt mid-way. We have a lot of erogenous zones worth playing around with it if you dare.

6 Add some sex toys and lube into the mix.

In case you need some extra companions to make the deed a lot more enjoyable and increase your chances of synced o’s, sex toys and lube have your back. For vulva owners, vibrators and clit suckers are fun options. As for penis owners, cock rings can give those needed buzzes mid-penetration. Then for all, dildos and anal plugs would be spicy companions that lead to synced o’s.

Takeaway

Simultaneous orgasms are amazing, and it makes sex a lot more exciting. But it’s only one great factor in the big vast world of sex. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to achieve immediately or always pull it off. The last thing you’d want to experience is sexual boredom or for sex to feel like a routine. 

Achieving this kind of orgasm takes practice and lots of communication, so be patient with one another throughout the journey.

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