How to Give a Blow Job: 35 Incredible Techniques & Tips

Giving a blow job may seem simple at first glance. However, it’s a sensual skill that only a few can master. If you have the patience to practice and enthusiasm to experiment, your partner will surely never forget how they felt inside your wet slippery mouth.

This guide will teach you the BJ basics and other tips to help you give a killer head. And if it’s your 100th time, yet you still don’t think you’ve reached the pro level, this guide can help you brush up on your technique.

What is a Blow job?

A blow job, also known as BJ, giving head, or fellatio, is a sexual activity wherein the penis is stimulated through someone’s mouth.

Basic Steps

1. Start by gently massaging or licking your partner’s soft penis. Keep on doing this until he’s erect. After that, spit into your partner’s penis or put on some water-based lubricant.

2. When it’s hard, shape your mouth like an “O” that fits comfortably around his size. Cover your teeth with your lips.

3. Slide your mouth down his penis until you reach the base.

4. Pull back until just the tip is in your mouth.

5. Keep going with a gentle back-and-forth motion while sucking a bit for extra pleasure.

Blow Job Techniques

Turn your BJ game from meh to memorable with these techniques. Whether you’re new or an expert in giving head, a technique in this list will surprise you.

1Base to Tip

Kickstart the deed by giving a long, sensual lick from the base of the penis up to its tip and vice versa. Keep doing it several times before moving to another blow job technique.

2Lick that Slit

If you’ve been giving your partner a blow job for quite some time now, you’ve probably noticed a slit at the top of his dick. For this method, try gently licking that slit in an up-and-down motion.

3Slide on the Side

Not yet ready to deepthroat your partner’s penis? You can still give them similar sensations by doing this blow job technique. Rub the tip of their penis against the inside walls of your cheek and tongue.

4Head Suck

For this technique, slide your partner’s penis head into your mouth. Wrap your lips firmly around it. You will then gently suck your partner’s cock; this will cause your lips and the inside of your mouth to rub softly against their shaft and glans penis. Take it up a notch by massaging the shaft with your tongue.

5Inch by Inch

Slide your partner’s penile head to your mouth. Suck it. After that, slide about an inch more of your partner’s penis while sucking it. Move back and forth, sucking it and not going any deeper. After a few seconds, get 1-2 inches deeper into your partner’s penis. Keep on doing it until you reach the base.

This technique is great for newbies as it prevents you from getting overwhelmed compared to pushing your partner’s whole dick in your mouth.

6Rooftop

This technique is pretty similar to the slide on the side, but instead of rubbing your partner’s penis over the inside walls of your cheek, you’re rubbing it to the roof of your mouth. What makes this great is that it gives deepthroat-like sensations to your partner without the actual deepthroating.

7Feel the Frenulum

For this technique, start by gently placing your mouth on the head of your partner’s penis. Keep it there, letting your lips form a soft, comfortable seal. Now, focus your attention on the frenulum, which is the sensitive area on the underside of the penis head. It’s that little ridge right at the bottom, one of the most sensitive spots.

Use your tongue to lick and swirl around this area, giving it some dedicated attention. The light, teasing sensations from your tongue will likely send waves of pleasure through your partner, making him squirm with delight!

8Polishing Head

Firmly hold your partner’s penis. Make your tongue as wet as possible, then stick it out. Once you’re ready, use your hand to move the head of your partner’s penis against your tongue; it’s like “polishing” your partner’s head over it.

You can move the head in an up-and-down motion, circular motion, or zigzag— experiment with different moves! You’re doing the technique properly as long as your hand moves.

9Swirling

For this blow job method, you’ll need to make swirling motions around your partner’s penis while sliding it in and out of your mouth. For starters, place the tip of your tongue on the base of the head. Move it around in a clockwise rotation. Keep swirling your tongue as you gently push your mouth further into his shaft. You can also use your hand to provide more swirling stimulation; gently twist your hand as you massage your partner’s shaft.

This is one of the blow job methods on the list that isn’t ideal for newbies since it requires coordination between your tongue, mouth, and hands. But as long as you practice, you’ll eventually get the hang of it!

10Deepthroat

This is probably the most popular blow job technique on this list. There’s an allure that deepthroating holds that you can’t get from other methods; maybe it’s the challenging or “going all in” aspect of it.

To do this method, start by giving your partner a blow job using the in-and-out technique. Start with shallow thrusts, then slowly deepen until your mouth has reached your partner’s penis bulb or base. Now, if you’re a newbie on this, do not rush it, or you may be uncomfortable. This BJ method also requires some practice, so don’t fret if you cannot perfect this on the first try.

11Hip Grab

This method is pretty similar to the basic in-and-out technique. The only difference is that instead of moving your head to slide the penis into your mouth, you will grab your partner’s hips and push them into your mouth.

What’s great about this one is that you’ll get to spank or squeeze your partner’s bum! You’re also giving that “mouthfuck” effect which is highly pleasurable for some guys.

12The Praying Hand

Published in the book The New Sex Bible by Jessica O’Reilly, the praying hand method involves putting your hands in a prayer formation, making it an elongated version of your mouth. To do this, start by putting a generous amount of lube on your palms, then sticking them together, just like you would do when praying. Slowly create a circular space in your hands, and place your hands into your mouth; your thumbs should be against your lips, and your index fingers should be right on your nose.

Once you’re ready, gently slide your hands to your partner’s penis until it reaches your mouth; keep sliding the penis until it reaches your preferred depth. Keep making the in-and-out motion with your hand in this position— you’ll surely make your partner reach the heavens with this one!

13Suck & Stroke

Did you know using your hands is the “secret sauce” to a good blow job? Using your mouth for everything may tire your jaw after a few seconds of sucking and licking. Meanwhile, if you’re giving a handjob while licking or sucking the tip, you’ll get to last longer. Also, the hand job + blow job combo is a surefire way to make your partner cum within minutes— the tight grip plus your sloppy mouth will surely take your partner to heaven every time.

For this technique, your mouth should be sucking the tip of the penis while using your dominant hand to stroke the shaft. Ask your partner if the stroking speed and tightness of your grip feel good, then make necessary adjustments based on their feedback. Keep sucking and stroking until they cum or are ready to switch on a different sexual act. This method is a tried-and-tested way to make your partner cum from a blow job alone, so we highly recommend this one.

14Testi-Touch

For this technique, you’ll play with your partner’s balls while sucking and licking their penis. Remember that the balls or testicles are sensitive, so don’t squeeze them too hard.

15BJHJ

This tried-and-tested technique is a fantastic way to give your partner a satisfying finish without straining your jaw. It’s especially great for beginners who aren’t yet ready for long oral sessions.

Start with a blow job, using either the classic technique or mixing it up with different methods you’ve learned from this guide. Once you feel your jaw getting tired, it’s time to switch things up. Apply a bit of water-based lubricant to your hands and transition to giving your partner a handjob. You can still use your tongue to play with the head of his penis, focusing on the most sensitive areas. Keep on stroking him until he reaches the big O.

Blow Job Tips

After learning the best blow job techniques, you’re ready to give your partner the hottest BJ of their life. But don’t expect to be godlike for the first time, as you’ll need to familiarize yourself with the techniques before mastering them. In the meantime, take note of the tips below to keep elevating your blow job game.

1Build anticipation.

Every woman has an inner seductress in them just waiting to be unleashed. Put on the charm and make that bold move. You don’t always have to play coy all the time and let the man do all the pursuing. You can switch gears and take the initiative instead of patiently waiting for him to lead the way. The thought of being desired by someone who can barely contain themselves can be intoxicating. Your partner feels the same way too!

It’s up to you to express interest in giving your partner a blow job. You can maybe start with a few naughty texts. If your lover is out on an errand or at the office, tell them what’s in store for the next time you guys meet. You can be explicit about it or vague enough, but still, give them an idea of what your lips want to do to the bad boy in their pants. And to take it up a notch, send that sexy selfie you’ve been saving for special occasions like this.

Now, while teasing your partner, use this time to ask for your partner’s consent. If you’re afraid that getting consent is “too formal” and can ruin the momentum, change the tone of the message and make it as playful as you would want it to be. Instead of “I want to give you a blow job later, let me know if you’re into that…” you can opt for “I want to suck and lick your cock sooooo badly. Can we do that later, babe?” The text is still naughty but does the job by asking for consent.

2Remember to prep!

A few hours before the deed, preferably at least 2 hours, brush your teeth and tongue. Emphasis on “a few hours before” as you’re not supposed to clean your teeth right before the activity; your bloodstream can absorb bacteria and viruses through the tiny cuts on your gums caused by flossing and brushing. If you want to freshen up your mouth before engaging in oral sex, use mouthwash.

Aside from keeping your mouth clean and fresh, it would be best if you also prepped the scene. If you have the budget, install mood lightings such as sunset lanterns or rose-red fairy lights. You can also opt for scented candles. We also recommend removing all possible distractions.

You can also set the scene by “being the scene.” What we mean by this is that you wear specific garments just for this play. You can wear new lingerie, sexy costumes, or any outfit to turn your partner on. When your partner looks at you, we bet they won’t give any attention to the room, as their main focus is you.

After prepping your body and the room, make sure to have some water-based flavored lubricants ready, condoms, and fully-charged sex toys (if there are any). That way, you wouldn’t fumble during the blow job to get what you need.

3Yay to foreplay!

Start with sensual dick rubs. It’s as simple as having your hand on their crotch and massaging that area. You can go easy on your boo or squeeze and let go.

After that, remove your hands from their crotch and start making out with your partner. In the middle of the steamy kissing sesh, gently get away from your partner’s lips and move to their sensual areas. Lick, suck, and bite their earlobe. Breathe out hot air on his neck. Your babe will shudder or moan from it; either way, he will love it. Slowly down to their chest, then belly button, leaving tiny chaste kisses. When you reach the waist down, you will be rewarded with your partner’s raging hard-on.

After massaging your partner’s dick and kissing them in their sensitive spots, you can pause quickly. Ask your babe what he wants you to do next. Of course, they will want you to give them a blow job. The question has nothing to do with being polite at all. Saying your partner’s intentions aloud makes for a very erotic scene. Hearing them say it also lets you know that their pleasure is under your control which only adds to your turn-on.

Now that you’re done with the build-up and you’ve had your blow job foreplay, it’s time to put your man out of his agony. Enough playing around.

4Learn the male sexual anatomy.

Another way of leveling up your BJ game is learning the different parts of the male sexual anatomy and knowing the most sensitive regions of the penis. That way, you can figure out which areas to touch more. For instance, the glans, penis (head), and frenulum are highly sensitive regions one should note.

5The sloppier, the better.

Giving a blow job is one of those things you’re allowed to be sloppy about. Unlike the vagina, the penis doesn’t lubricate, so you have to provide for it yourself. Sure, there’s the precum. But come on, that’s actually just a bead of lube on an average of what? A five-inch penis? That’s still not enough lube.

Feel free to spit on your partner’s dong. Drool all over it. Don’t stop until you make threadlike spit as you pull back from their penis. And if you’re not hydrated enough, drink a glass of water! You can also opt for edible and flavored lubes. What’s great about this intimate product is that you can give that sloppy blow job without drying your mouth and taking a water break every five minutes.

6Don’t rush it.

If you’re thrusting too fast, there’s a higher chance you’re going to hurt your partner. Remember the no teeth rule. They’re not going to enjoy it since they would end up being too worried about their dick. And you’re not going to enjoy it either since you fail to give yourself the time to get into it. Allow yourself to immerse in the act of giving a blow job. Take your time. You got the joystick in your hand, so you may as well enjoy the ride.

7Be enthusiastic!

Your lover loves the sound of your moans. They interpret it as you finding pleasure in their dick. So yes, moan like you’ve been in a drought for 10 long years, and you’re finally blessed with rain. Let him hear you make that sultry sound at the back of your throat. And even if they haven’t elicited that sound from you, there’s no harm in faking it till you make it. If you were just pretending at first, you might be surprised to find yourself moaning for real.

If the sound of you moaning isn’t enough, how about expressing it in words? There’s really nothing sexier than hearing a person profess just how much they love having their partner’s dick in their mouth. Tell your boo just how turned on you are. Just how much you’re dripping with your sultry juices. It’s such a huge ego booster for them.

8Make gurgling and sucking noises.

Again, this has to do with the auditory senses. Men just love to hear that thing you do with your lips while you suck him dry. It heightens your partner’s arousal to hear you gargle with your spit and smack those gorgeous lips of yours. Do it so with great enthusiasm.

9Be attentive to your partner’s cues.

Instead of fully focusing on what you’re doing, you should also focus on your partner’s reaction to what you’re doing. You may have mastered the best and most complicated fellatio techniques in town, but if your lover ain’t enjoying it, then you weren’t successful in pleasing them.

That’s why you should always observe your partner’s verbal and non-verbal cues. Are they moaning? Do they look like they’re in pain? Are they smiling and drooling from pleasure? Do their legs twitch a bit while you suck their dick? Those are some of the things that you may notice during the deed. By being attentive to your partner’s desires and needs, you’re gonna ace your BJ skills in no time.

10Give love on the other erogenous zones too.

Giving head isn’t all about sucking the schlong. Don’t just focus on the penis; give the areas some well-deserved love too! For instance, you can massage your partner’s balls, spank their buttcheeks, rub their perineum, lightly pinch their nipples, or make circling motions to their anal opening. By playing the other sensitive areas on their body, you’ll surely heighten their arousal due to the additional sensations.

11Yes to eye contact!

Make the blow job act intimate. While you’re down there, being a bad babe and doing all things wicked to their dick, look up, raise your eyes to meet their gaze, and muster that sweet angel look. Bat your eyelashes at them, and continue to pump their dick with your mouth. We guarantee that the view is going to send your lover over the edge.

12Use sex toys to intensify his pleasure…

Want to take the blow job game up a notch? Two words… sex toys! They can help you rock your man’s world without exerting so much effort. For instance, if you want to massage your partner’s balls, you can try using a finger, lay-on, or mini vibrator to add more rumbly vibes to the area. You can also ask your partner to wear a butt plug or prostate massager for dual stimulation.

13… And use sex toys too!

Giving your man devoted time for pleasure can be great, but who says you can’t have some fun yourself? Consider getting yourself a wearable sex toy, like a panty vibrator, love egg, or anal vibrator, and use it while pleasuring your partner. You can control the toy or hand it over to your partner for a more thrilling experience.

Not only will those ensure mutual pleasure, but trying to keep blowing him while you’re on the edge can be a thrilling visual for your man.

14Try edible or kissable stimulants.

Aside from sex toys, another great pleasure product for blow jobs are edible stimulants! They are gel or creams that provide cooling, warming, or tingling sensations on your own and your partner’s intimate area. Just apply the gel, wait for a few seconds or minutes, then go for the deed. With the stimulants of their penis, they’ll surely feel more pleasure when you start sucking their cock.

15Experiment with different blow job positions.

Aside from trying various blow job techniques, another great way to level up your head game is by doing it in different positions. Don’t just go for the typical kneeling position; you can also try giving him a blow job while they’re sitting on your side, as if in a cinema. You can also suck him in while they’re lying on the couch as if they’re being “assessed” with a doctor. Or, if you’re feeling extra naughty, you can lie in bed and let your partner sit on your face!

16Take the pressure off!

Here’s another blow job tip that you should always remember. Don’t stress about it too much. Whether you’re a newbie or an experienced queen, mishaps can happen. And it’s alright, as things don’t have to be perfect. As long as you and your partner are both enjoying it, the deed will still end on a happy note.

17Be mindful of your teeth.

It’s easy to get carried away when you’re giving a blow job, but it’s important to be mindful of your teeth. The penis is incredibly sensitive, and even light contact with your teeth can cause discomfort. To avoid this, open your mouth wide enough and cover your bottom teeth with your bottom lip.

A helpful tip is to consciously relax your jaw and use your lips and tongue more actively. This will ensure a pleasurable experience for your partner without any accidental nicks or scrapes.

18Keep stroking the shaft during the climax, but avoid the head!

Once you feel your partner reaching climax, it’s a good idea to stop any direct action on the head of his penis and instead give gentle strokes to his shaft. After ejaculation, the head of the penis can become extremely sensitive, much like the clitoris does during an orgasm.

Post-cum stimulation on the shaft, however, can feel incredibly pleasurable. So, focus on giving light, soothing strokes to the shaft while avoiding the head.

19Try edging!

If you’re getting used to giving blow jobs now and want to spice things up, try mixing edging into your technique. Edging is a pleasure method where you deliberately stop stimulating your partner just as they are about to climax. Pause for a few minutes, allowing the intensity to subside, and then start pleasuring him again.

This technique not only extends the duration of your intimate session but also enhances the eventual orgasm. By bringing him close to the edge multiple times before finally letting him release, you build up an incredible amount of sexual tension and anticipation, which makes the final orgasm much more powerful.

20Find out what he enjoys during a blow job.

Sometimes, all you need to do is ask him what he wants. Does he want to get handcuffed and teased while you’re blowing him? Does he want more eye contact from you? Does he want you to wear a specific garment or see full-on naked while you’re sucking him? Does he want some light nibbles? What blow job techniques or positions that he would like to experience? Lay down all the questions you have in mind.

Some guys say, “Everything is great…” or “Whatever is comfortable for you.” It may sound good since he’s letting you take control of the action, but you also have to explain to him that giving you certain directions makes it easier on your end—he’ll get to be pleasured the way he wants you to be, and you’ll have less “workload” since you don’t have to guess what he desires. It’s a win-win for everyone!

Blow Job Essentials

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Frequently Asked Questions

As you’ve learned the ins and outs of a blow job, you’re now ready to dive into this naughty act! But if you still have questions lingering in your mind, we’ve answered some of the frequently asked questions about BJs below.

1Is it necessary to deepthroat when giving a blow job?

Let’s just begin this one with full disclosure. Deep-throating isn’t for everyone. Some people are into it, some have their apprehensions, and some give it their flat-out rejection. And that’s okay. We want what we want. Don’t force yourself to like it just because your partner is into it. But if you’re one of the peeps who genuinely enjoys a deep throat, just remember to relax… and don’t forget to breathe.

2How strong should I hold and blow my partner’s cock?

Have you ever watched porn and heard the guy demanding his partner to suck him harder? If you haven’t (which we doubt), then we’re telling you now. That scene is actually not too far from the truth. We’ve repeatedly mentioned how sensitive a guy’s penis is, but don’t mistake it for something fragile. You can pucker your lips, suck him hard, and pump his dick as you please. And it’s not actually going to fall off. The keyword here is hard, but not too fast.

3How can I prevent gagging when giving a blow job?

Here are some ways to prevent that icky gagging feeling during a blow job. First, you’ll need to have a consistent breathing pattern during the deed. Make sure to take deep breaths through your nose as it relaxes your throat. This will lessen the chances of your gag reflex getting triggered and will calm your nerves throughout the act.

Second, you’ll need to try different positions. By switching to a new blow job position, you’re also switching the angle of how the penis is hitting your mouth. Once you’re done experimenting, you can then figure out the positions that you’re most comfortable with and then do that position more often when giving head.

Lastly, opt for non-deepthroat techniques. Instead of pushing your partner’s dick at the back of your throat, maybe rubbing it in the side of your inner cheeks or the roof of your mouth can suffice. Remember, you don’t have to deepthroat your partner if you’re not comfy with it.

4My partner has foreskin; what should I do?

If your partner has an uncut penis, keep in mind that the head of his cock is highly sensitive. The foreskin is packed with nerve endings— it’s like the clitoris! So when giving them a head, just focus on licking and stroking with minimal suction. If you get into a vacuum mode, you may overstimulate your partner due to the intense suction.

You can also gently push the foreskin back, but make sure to do this if your partner has given you consent to do it. Again, the foreskin is a very sensitive area, so if your partner doesn’t want you to fold it back or pinch it, just respect their limits.

5Which one is better: Spit or swallow?

Go for what your heart desires! Some people want to take it all in, while others prefer to let it all out. Don’t feel pressured to swallow your partner’s cum just because they’re into it. Remember, this activity should be fun for both parties, so if swallowing their cum brings you discomfort, just spit it out on a towel or tissue.

Takeaway

We don’t expect you to be able to do everything here in one go. It may take a bit of practice. But if you’re able to put everything here together, then you are one blow job vixen, and any man worthy of having their mouth in you is going to thank their lucky stars. On the downside, you may end up having men obsessing over you and your blow job skills. But hey, who’s complaining?