Dear Dr. Sex,
I am a “never been kissed, never been touched” 27-year-old virgin. Heck, I’ve never even gone out on a date or had a fling! And it’s not really because I believe in the “marriage before sex” kind of thing. At first, it was just because I didn’t have any interest in anyone. I’m kind of a nerd and prefer reading books than sticking my tongue in someone’s mouth. You can say, my interest was a late bloomer (and so am I). But now, I want to lose my virginity.
Now, I’m in dating apps, and I’m trying to be with someone I like enough to have sex with. I want to lose my virginity already, but I’m afraid the person I date will make fun of me because it might be “too late.” I’m feeling very pressured. Most of my peers are already married or having kids and I’m here, still a virgin. I want to lose my virginity but I’m scared because of my age. I really want some advice regarding this.
Yours,
Thea
Dear Thea,
First of all, 27 is not that late to have sex. Life’s not a race, hun. Nowadays, you can have sex anytime you like. No judgments. You can lose your virginity at any age you like. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re ready for it. Don’t look at the clock as if it’s a ticking time bomb about to explode on you anytime. Don’t get pressured by your peers doing their own thing. It’s their life. And this is your life. Take things slowly and at your own pace. Ask yourself why you want to lose your virginity in the first place. If it’s just because you feel pressure, then I suggest you don’t have sex yet.
You see, the most important part of losing your virginity is having the confidence to do so. Knowing that you are emotionally, psychologically and physically prepared to go through with it is important so that you’ll have no regrets. But if you’re really, really ready for it and you really want to lose it because it’s your own choice and not dictated by external factors, then read on.
Age is just a number. Don’t be scared if people laugh at you or judge you if you tell them you’re a 27-year-old virgin. You weren’t ready before and had no interest in it whatsoever. What can you do about it? If they laugh and ridicule you when you tell them your age and inexperience, let me ask you this: would you really want to date them? Would you really be with someone who’s like that? You should know better. Even if you think they’re smart, funny, and extremely attractive if they can’t respect you and your choices, why bother? Why would you lose your virginity to a person who doesn’t respect you as a person? Move on to the next prospect! There’s a lot of fish in the sea, and you’ll definitely find someone worthy of you.
And when you finally found the person to pop the cherry for you, don’t forget to wear protection. Even if you really like this person, it’s important that you keep yourself safe at all times, most especially since this is your first time.
For more details regarding this journey you’re about to embark on, I suggest you read this: Losing Your Virginity: What You Should Know Before the Deed.
I hope that helps.
Yours,
Dr. Sex
