Learning and Understanding the Female Premature Orgasm

Did you know that a female premature orgasm exists? Sure, we heard it in males, but they’re also evident in women. This is why we need more sexual health guides, especially on female sexuality!

Hence, this guide will give you a brief run-through about it and how to deal with it if you’ve experienced or are experiencing it during sex.

What Exactly is a Female Premature Orgasm?

A female premature orgasm is when a female reaches an orgasm a lot earlier than they intended. 

Some signs of such an orgasm can be pelvic muscle contractions, increased heart rate, a hypersensitive clitoris, and a strong feeling for release. One can experience all or some of these signs as they engage in the deed.

This sexual dysfunction was explored through a Portuguese study, eager to bring more awareness to this issue within female sexuality. They then discovered that over 40% of the women who took up this survey occasionally experienced early o’s. They also found that there’s a small percentage of women who have this dysfunction and experience it in an extreme manner.

On the other hand, there’s a bigger percentage of women who can live with it. Some possible causes are that they’re overly excited to be with their partner, have a healthy relationship with them, or have a heightened desire for sex after not engaging in it, or have gone through a sexual dry spell.

There is still little research behind this phenomenon, leaving more room to deepen it.

More Causes of a Female Premature Orgasm

Let’s learn more about what can spark a female premature orgasm aside from what we mentioned in the previous section here.

1. Hormonal Imbalances
2. Sexual abuse or issues
3. Pre-diagnosed medical conditions
4. Psychological conditions (e.g., anxiety, depression)
5. Medications
6. Relationship Issues

Emotional Effects of a Female Premature Orgasm

Unravel all sorts of emotions that one can face when one experiences such an unexpected orgasm.

1 It makes one feel distressed.

Just like its male counterpart, finishing earlier than you intended can be bothersome and disappointing. At least, to you it is. It’s as if you “failed” your partner because you cannot continue or end things on a high note. You may even break down and/or not want to personally face your partner, regardless of their reaction to your early o’.

2 Insecurity creeps in.

Having a sexual dysfunction is not easy to live with, just like any sickness that your body faces. Because your body doesn’t react normally to sex, your confidence decreases your self-image amongst those who have healthy libidos and bodies for sex. Plus, it’s known that females usually last longer in bed, so not keeping up with that can be a further strong blow to your self-esteem.

3 Embarrassment also joins in the mix.

Suddenly reaching an o’ when you weren’t ready at all, at least mentally, can take a toll on you. To the point you’ll avoid your partner or the deed at all because facing them feels like a challenge. As if you did something wrong, but it was more like something you couldn’t control.

Tips on Dealing With a Female Premature Orgasm

Properly manage your way in handling female premature orgasms through this section of helpful tips down below.

1 Avoid acts and positions that make you o’ quickly.

Certain aspects of sex can create a strong orgasmic response in you. And they vary per person too as we all have uniquely-structured bodies. Thus, try to take note of any patterns when having sex. For example, your body starts getting more riled up when taking it doggy style. As a result, you’d limit or avoid it so you can last longer in the bedroom.

It’s helpful to tell your partner about these patterns as well so you can both have more meaningful and lengthier sexcapades.

2 Engage in masturbation more.

Masturbation makes you more acquainted with your body and the certain ways on how to please it. And at the same time, you further understand how your body reacts during the build-up, the crucial moments right before reaching an o’. 

Overall, masturbation is a personal experience where one learns more about their libido and arousal, whether it be through their hands or sex toys.

3 Try edging.

This act revolves around touching yourself until you’re on the brink of an o’, only to pull back. Thus, it makes you manage your o’s and last longer too. Trying various ways of edging yourself also familiarizes you with your body so you can show your partner afterwards.

4 Be gentle with yourself.

It can be discouraging to orgasm a lot faster than others. Hence, you should take it day by day, session per session, as you learn more about how to delay an early orgasm. Fix your self-talk and try not to compare yourself to others because you may only be seeing a fragment of their life.

5 Have a consultation with a professional.

More specifically, consulting with a sexual health professional like a gynecologist may be beneficial in finding the root causes of your female premature orgasm. They can also provide you with advice and the necessary treatments that’ll strengthen you in the bedroom.

On the emotional side, consulting with a sexual health therapist or counselor can aid in processing your emotions surrounding such an orgasm. They’ll also provide you with exercises and treatments that’ll get to the bottom of your overall emotional well-being.

Takeaway

A female premature orgasm can be as harmful as its male counterpart. But it can also be not much of a big deal to others. Regardless, being able to manage your emotions around it and learn more about what’s going on in your body may give you a better understanding of it. 

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