Female Masturbation Techniques for Solo Play (Get that O!)

Disclaimer: This guide explores female masturbation techniques gathered from various resources, studies, and personal experiences. Remember that everyone has their unique way of touching themselves, so some techniques shared in this article may work for you, while others may not. If you have physical or mental conditions that affect how you masturbate and reach orgasm, don’t hesitate to consult a medical professional for guidance.

Been exploring your body but couldn’t reach those intense orgasms? Wanna learn more about your body so you can communicate to your partner your desires in the bedroom? Just discovered masturbation and want to explore further? You’re in the right place.

This comprehensive guide will teach all the ways to master the art of self-pleasure— including female erogenous zones, female masturbation techniques, self-pleasure tips, recommended sex toys, and more.

What Exactly is Masturbation?

Upon opening this guide, you likely have some idea of what masturbation entails, but let’s dive a bit deeper.

Masturbation is all about touching yourself to reach sexual gratification or orgasm. It means stimulating your erogenous zones with your hands, sex toys, or even household items (though it’s best to avoid those since they aren’t body-safe).

Everyone has their own way of enjoying sexual pleasure, so take your time exploring your erogenous zones, trying out different techniques, and experimenting with new styles to really amp up your experience.

Erogenous Zones 101

As mentioned earlier, masturbation involves touching erogenous zones or areas that elicit a sexual response. If you’re curious about what those areas are, here’s a list of pleasure zones on the female body.

Appetizers: Neck, Ears, Lips, Armpits, etc.

Every part of your body is connected. The more body parts you lavish your attention on, the more complete your orgasm will be. The more you wake up adjacent parts of your body, the more aroused and ready your main erogenous zones will be. And you want a full-course meal, don’t you? The only way to discover what you like is by experimenting, so go ahead and take a pleasure trip around your whole body.

Here are some of the minor female erogenous zones: 

• Scalp
• Ears
• Side of the neck
• Hollows in your shoulders between the bones
• Clavicles
• Chest
• Armpits
• Insides of your biceps and forearms
• Fingers
• Between your stomach where the skin on your hips dips on the pelvis
• Lower back
• Below the belly button
• Sides of your stomach
• Feet
• Knee pits
• Butt
• Groins

Clitoris

If you’ve read tons of blog posts and books about female masturbation techniques, you’re probably familiar with this part. The clitoris is an organ with the sole purpose of giving pleasure. And no, your clitoris is not just that little bulb between your legs at the upper part of your vulva. In fact, it stretches below the bulb (If you’ve been checking illustrations of the female anatomy, you know those little legs? That’s still part of the clitoris!) all the way into your vagina. It is the organ responsible for most female orgasms and will need direct stimulation if you want to reach the big O.

G-Spot

Along with the clitoris, the G-spot is heavily mentioned on various resources about female masturbation techniques and sex, in general. The G-spot is part of the clitoral network, found on the upper front wall of the vagina. It’s that spongy, slightly raised part that swells up when sexually aroused. To reach it, you need to be highly aroused first. Then, insert your fingers in your vagina pointing towards your belly button, and curve your fingers in a “come hither” motion. There’s no specific spot you have to hit because the g-spot is an entire region. Have fun exploring pleasure in different places!

A-spot

If you’ve experienced an orgasm through deep vaginal penetration, then you’ve probably reached the a-spot before. The anterior fornix zone, or A-spot, is located at the very end of the anterior wall of your vagina. It is also known as the female prostate.

To find it, start from the g-spot you just unlocked. It leads to a straight line 4-6 inches into your a-spot, which you’ll feel just before the tube that is your cervix. Your a-spot is made of sensitive tissue that will lubricate when stimulated, so if you’re getting even wetter, you’ve hit the spot!

Breasts/Nipples

A very useful thing to keep in mind when pleasuring yourself is that every part of our bodies is connected. Your nipples are not the only things that contribute to pleasure in the chest. It’s connected to the areola, the raised and darker skin around your nipples, which is connected to the breast, which is connected to the breastbone and clavicle.

For maximum results, leave no part of your chest untouched! The more every part is stimulated, the more blood flows through your erogenous zones, making them more sensitive for heightened pleasure. If possible, touch your breast while doing the listed female masturbation techniques below—you’ll surely have a grand time.

Cervix

Your cervix is the tube that has an opening, leading semen to your uterus. It’s located at the very end of your vagina, so you must search deep, be very much aroused, and use lube to help you find your way! It will feel like the tip of a nose, with a hole so small you won’t be able to insert a finger inside. Since its opening is so narrow, you’ll have to loosen it up to start having fun with it.

If you compare the cervix with the clitoris, you could say that the clitoris is quite shallow, with orgasms that come and go quickly. With the clitoris, only the muscles in your vulva will contract, as opposed to a one coming from the cervix, where the muscles in your pelvic floor, even those near the stomach will feel contractions.

Female Masturbation Techniques

Now that you’ve learned some sweet spots, let’s move on to the main course. Here are some tried-and-tested female masturbation techniques. Take a moment to read each technique and assess what works for you. If you can try all the techniques below, the better!

Fingering

Let’s begin with the basics. When people talk about female masturbation, fingering is probably the first thing that comes to their mind. This method involves using your fingers to rub and tap your erogenous zones, particularly the clitoris, vagina, and nipples.

Pillow Humping

This method involves grinding your vulva against a pillow (or anything soft). What’s great about this method compared to other female masturbation techniques is that your hands are free, allowing you to touch your other erogenous zones.

To try this wild ride yourself, take a pillow and sit on it with your vulva on top of it. After that, start grinding your hips against it. You can adjust the pressure, your position, or even the type of pillow you use until it feels hella pleasurable. Once you’ve learned the pressure and rhythm that works best, be consistent with it until you reach for the big O. 

Water Masturbation

This technique goes something like this: You use an adjustable shower head, place it over your vagina, then turn it on and let the water flow towards your vagina. Bathtub faucets, bidets, and other water fixtures can also work, though you need to make adjustments to ensure a comfortable experience. 

There’s no specific science behind this, but the pleasurable sensation you can get from this technique is most likely due to the pressure of the water pumping out. It also feels good, especially if the water is cold, as it sparks up more pleasure.

Aside from being able to do it while you’re in the shower, which helps a lot if you’re sharing a bedroom with other people and would want a bit of privacy, this technique is also mess-free. Once you’re done playing, you can proceed with bathing.

Syntribation

If common approaches to self-pleasure aren’t working for you, maybe you need to get a little bit creative. Syntribation is one of the unconventional female masturbation techniques that involves squeezing your thighs. While sitting or lying on your back, start pressing your thighs together or crossing your legs. Clench them tightly until you feel that satisfying orgasm. The intense thigh-squeezing provides indirect pressure to the clitoris, causing those sexual sensations.

Corner or Edge Rubbing

Another interesting technique is edge or corner rubbing, where you gently stimulate your clitoris against the edge of a table, counter, bed, or similar item. It might be niche, but it can be highly effective and incredibly pleasurable for those who enjoy it.

Sex Toy Play

If you’re having some issues cumming from manual female masturbation techniques, sex toys are here to save the day. These devices are designed to please your erogenous zones, reducing your workload and increasing your enjoyment. Just get any sex toy from a reputable adult store, use it as intended, and feel those pleasurable Os. 

Here are some of the pleasure toys that you can try: 

• Vibrator (G-Spot, Mini, Rabbit, Love Egg, Wearable, Finger Vibe, Tip Vibrator, Magic Wand Massager)
• Dildo (Realistic, Glass, Vibrating) 
• Clit Sucker
• Butt Plug

Masturbation Styles

While female masturbation techniques pertain to the specific actions you take to stimulate yourself, masturbation styles refer to the manner in which you touch yourself. Here are some styles or patterns to elevate your sensual plays.

Hinting

Hinting is all about building anticipation. This is one of the female masturbation techniques that are used for pre-game. With this style, you’re basically ignoring your most sensitive spots, making you more aroused than ever. Once you can’t hold it in, you then start stimulating the said spots for that sweet bliss. Now, it’s up to you on which parts you should be ignoring before the main action, but here are some suggestions.

• Hinting the Vulva: Play around with your nipples then slowly run your fingers on your lower thighs, skipping the vulva. Repeat the motion a few times until you can’t hold it in.
• Hinting the Clitoris: With this hinting technique, you’re touching the other parts of your vulva, except the clit. You can do this by rubbing your labia then lightly touching the area surrounding your clit. You can also directly touch but just with light taps, just to tease it a bit more.
• Hinting the Vaginal Opening: With this hinting method, you basically play with your vulva, without inserting your finger or toy inside your vagina. You can also put it in, but not enough to make you reach climax. You can also play with your vaginal opening just to tease it a little bit more.

Patterned Play

Sometimes, all it takes is patterned tapping, rubbing, or thrusting. Whether you’re going to finger yourself or use your trusty sex toys, having a rhythm while doing other female masturbation techniques can amplify the experience. Now, you can experiment and discover the rhythm that works best for you. But if you’re pretty much clueless and wanted a guide, here are some types of rhythm that you can try during solo-play.

• Irregular: As the name suggests, this type brings a random pattern. Some women enjoy having an unpredictable rhythm during their solo play since it keeps the suspense in. Now to do this, you basically tap, rub, or thrust your fingers or sex toys randomly.
• Skipping: With this type, you take a break in between each motion. For example, you tap your clitoris, then skip for a second, then tap again. Most women love this technique because it brings slower buildup—leading to a more intense orgasm.
• Constant Pattern: In a hurry? Want to reach that awesome O as fast as you can? This is the rhythm type for you. With the constant pattern, you basically don’t skip at all—the motion never stops until you reach orgasm. Now, you can do this with your fingers as you rub intensely your clit, but this works best with a vibrator as it can provide continuous pulse as your fingers can get tired with this technique.
• Back to Back: For this type, it’s like the constant pattern one, but slower. When doing this technique, you’re going to repeat the previous motion with no pauses in between.

Edging

Edging is a masturbation style or practice wherein you withhold your orgasm to get a longer and more intense orgasm later on. Now, you’re probably thinking that this is easy to achieve, but that’s not necessarily the case. In fact, it’s one of the challenging female masturbation techniques on this list. This is because most of the time, it’s just darn hard to stop yourself from reaching that heavenly bliss. With that, we got you some edging methods that will help you achieve edging successfully.

• Pausing Method: With this technique, you basically stop touching yourself when you feel like reaching the big O. You then wait for a few minutes to calm your body, then start all over again.
• Distraction Method: With this method, you’re not necessarily stopping to touch yourself, but simply moving your fingers on other areas. Let’s say you’re going to reach climax through clitoral stimulation—when you feel like you’re going to have an orgasm, you move your focus and your fingers from the clitoris to the other parts of your body, such as your nipples.
• Continuous Method: This technique is similar to the distraction method, but with minor tweaks. For this one, you’re going to move your fingers to the other parts of the vulva the moment you’re about to cum. After a few minutes, return your fingers to your clit or vagina to stimulate it, then shift again the moment you’re about to orgasm. Keep doing it ‘till you can hold it in for stronger orgasms.

Rhythm Roulette

Some women prefer to do the tried-and-tested female masturbation techniques, but if you’re someone who likes to experience various sensations during solo-play, this self-pleasure style is a must-try. For this one, it’s all about going for a variety of motions (whether with fingers or toys) during solo play. There’s no pattern to follow nor the standard of pressure or pace. All you’re going to do is to do whatever that works best for you. Here are some variations of this technique:

• Constant Surprise: There’s no pattern at all. You’re constantly trying new strokes, glides, rubs, taps, and thrusts. Now, for some, this could feel more exciting while others might get distracted with the constant flow of new sensations. If you’re the latter, the second variation might work best for you.
• Set Surprise: For this method, you’re basically repeating a certain motion a few times, then switching to a new motion. Once you get bored with the motion, you can then switch to a new one.

Layering 

Sometimes, going to the direct route isn’t enough. Some women have extremely sensitive clits that just rubbing it can already bring discomfort or pain. With that, they prefer indirectly touching their clitoris and prefer to move the layers of skin around it instead. This masturbation style is called layering. It’s one of the most effective, yet somewhat underrated, female masturbation techniques in this list. Now, there are several ways to do this method:

• Layering through Fabric: For this method, you’re basically touching yourself with your underwear on. Wearing underwear made from soft fabric, such as cotton, start lightly rubbing your clit and the other parts of your vulva. You can either do this to warm your body up for the main action or continuously do this technique until you cum.
• Layering through the Pubic Hair Area: Ever noticed the area where your pubic hairs grow? You might think it’s just some sort of cover to your intimate area, but it’s actually near the nerve network that’s connected to your clitoris. You can massage this area, putting a little bit more pressure to stimulate those nerves.
• Layering it through the Lips: With this layering method, you’re sandwiching your clit between your outer lips, putting an indirect and pleasurable pressure into it. You may squeeze in and out of it or move the sandwiched clit in an upward-downward motion.
• Layering through the Hood: Another way of doing this technique is through that special clitoral hood. As the name suggests, it’s a small hood that’s covering up the other parts of your clitoris. Now, if you want to play with your clit through the hood-layering method, you can either glide it over, move the hood side to side or push it a bit either by sideways or downward, putting indirect pressure on your clit.

Female Masturbation Tips

As you’ve learned the different female masturbation techniques, we can feel your excitement in trying those methods out. But before doing that, safety first! Here are 10 tips to keep in mind so you can keep enjoying your sexy fun without any hassles!

Always wash your hands before self-lovin’.

Do I even need to explain how much bacteria ends up on your hands from everyday life, most especially your phone? Before indulging in various female masturbation techniques, even if you’re horny to the point of explosion, wash your damn hands first. It’s worth the wait because if you end up with a bacterial or yeast infection, you won’t have some happy time for a while.

If you use sex toys or props, clean them after.

Most sex toys can be cleaned with soap and water or with a sex toy cleaner. If you want something organic, use baking soda and vinegar. And for those who are using household items, please do wipe it clean. Be courteous at all times, especially to yourself.

Get the timing right, so sexy time is uninterrupted.

Before trying one of the female masturbation techniques above, figure out the longest, most peaceful time you have at home (or wherever you plan to get naughty) so you can enjoy your “me” time as much as you possibly can. Some favorites are right before sleeping, listen to some audio erotica to melt into relaxation! Or right after you wake up, to start your day right.

Take. Your. Damn. Time.

No guy is making you feel pressured to heat things up (even if there was, you shouldn’t listen to those thoughts, gurl!). This is the time that you are giving to yourself. You deserve to savor each moment. When indulging in female masturbation techniques, take your time, and remove the pressure.

Seduce yourself.

When you’re on a date, you don’t just cut straight to the fingering, right? You have to be seduced before you really get in the mood! Same as when you’re on your own, you should still treasure yourself! Pour yourself a glass of wine. Touch your hair, your face, your shoulders, just as you would imagine a lover doing it to you – they don’t call it self-love for nothing! Squeeze, rub, and if you’re flexible, lick those breasts the way a horny teenage boy would! Give yourself a massage, play some sexy music, and heck, tell yourself some raunchy pickup lines, cause gurl, you are worth it.

Give those inner lips some attention!

Nope, it’s not only your clit and vagina that gives you powerful pleasure. Your entire vulva is a treasure trove of sensitive nerve endings. Go and explore! Stimulating your labia with strokes and rubs upwards, downwards, zigzags, and any other shape you can think of, sends blood rushing all over your vulva – amplifying every sensation after this tease!

Experiment with different depths.

A woman’s body is beautiful, with more pleasure centers than most know! Apart from the clit and the g-spot, there’s also the A-spot, located on the deepest part of the front wall of your vagina just before your cervix. When you thrust your fingers inside of you, go as shallow as you can first so your g-spot fires up your entire vulva, then as you grow in arousal, try pushing your fingers in deeper to start rubbing the a-spot! If you zip your legs tight and thrust your fingers deep while still touching your g-spot, you may just be able to achieve double stimulation, making you an expert on female masturbation techniques!

Try different positions.

Aside from female masturbation techniques, your positions while doing those methods matters too. The angle of our hips plays a big role in where your fingers stimulate your vagina. Keeping your legs together and clenching your vagina lets you stimulate everything. Crossing your legs gives you a tighter fuck. Going on all fours gives you better chances of hitting your a-spot. Sitting with legs bent and your pelvis tilted up offers you VIP access to your g-spot! Do the whole kama sutra on yourself, and explore every happy place in your vagina!

Indulge in your dirty fantasies.

Who says you need a partner to act out your fantasies? Giving them a test drive solo is a safe, fun, and no-holds-barred way to experiment and discover what you like, what you don’t like, what hurts, what tickles, and what feels good!

Laugh at your bloopers, and when you find the right recipe, invite someone to come and play! Use a magic wand, and pretend a hot man is giving you forced orgasms! Put on a French Maid costume, and imagine cleaning up your own dirty body, feather tickler optional! Tie your feet to the bed, and spank your ass! The possibilities are as endless as your naughty imagination!

Can’t reach orgasm? Don’t stress.

The more you’re stressing out from orgasms, the more you won’t be able to orgasm. Your mindset plays a big part in pleasure, so try to let go of any worries and enjoy the moment— take a deep breath, relax, and focus on the sensations. The more you can let go and be in the moment, the easier it’ll be to reach orgasm.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Now that you’ve learned about the different female masturbation techniques, as well as solo-play tips, you’re most likely ready to indulge in self-love. However, if there are questions in your mind that are still making you hesitant to try it, don’t ya worry. Here are some of the frequently asked questions about masturbation, answered.

Is it unclean to masturbate during my period?

Masturbating is totally fine even during your period, as long as you follow the safety guidelines for masturbation mentioned above. In fact, some of the female masturbation techniques above are done easier during your period. When Aunt Flo visits, your vaginal opening is wider, and your cervix hangs lower. You may just have an extra-special experience during your red days that you have to try!

Can I play with my vagina and my anus at the same time?

You definitely can, SO LONG AS you make sure you don’t use the same fingers/tools on your vagina as you did with your anus. The anus has a lot of bacteria that have no place in the vagina, so don’t mix what you insert!

Remember, the anus and the vagina DO NOT share! If you’re too in the moment to go to the sink and wash your fingers/sex toys, then please at least put a condom on whatever you put in your anus before putting it in your vagina.

Is it normal to masturbate? Does it make me a nymphomaniac or a slut?

It’s totally normal to masturbate. Surveys show that most women first masturbated when they were kids, exploring their bodies. It’s a normal part of growing up, and a normal part of being a woman. Your lady parts exist to give you pleasure, so use them!

Women report masturbating 3 times a week on average, with some even self-loving multiple times a day. As long as it makes you happy and it’s not interfering with your life, there’s absolutely no reason to worry about it. The more relaxed and confident you are with what you’re doing, the more aroused and orgasm-ready you’ll be!

Will masturbation change my vagina’s state?

Even if you try all the female masturbation techniques above, your vagina will remain the same. Don’t let those sexist posts on social media fool you. The vagina is suuuper elastic. Masturbation and sexual activity do not permanently stretch its size! In fact, the more you orgasm the more your vaginal muscles are exercised, allowing you to contract them with more control for tighter penetration and more powerful orgasms.

If I use a vibrator, will it be harder for me to orgasm without one?

Vibrators offer more powerful sensations than body parts, so it may take your pleasure threshold up a level that’s more challenging to satisfy. But if you love your vibrator, keep using it! If it will take more for you to orgasm because of it, I’m sure you or your partner would be more than willing to accept the challenge of trying more advanced techniques!

Will masturbating take away my virginity?

Virginity is a socio-cultural concept rather than a biological one. If we base it on that, no matter what you’ve done with your sex organs, before you are penetrated by another man or woman, you are still a virgin.

If you’re asking whether masturbating can tear your hymen, then the short answer is yes. Activities such as inserting tampons, masturbating, gymnastics, and horse-riding can cause the hymen to tear, and that doesn’t make you lose your virginity. It doesn’t take away any of your worth. Your body changes with you, and that is completely normal!

When you’re ready for your first time, hymen or no hymen, your partner should appreciate your body, and what you do with it, just as it is. Hymen or no hymen, don’t be conscious or insecure about your body, because it is you and it is beautiful. And hey, pussy is pussy, no matter what its shape, size, or color.

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