Queening 101: Best Face Sitting Positions for Oral Sex

When it comes to receiving oral sex, most women tend to dismiss face sitting positions, also known as queening.

For those that are not familiar with this position, it basically goes like this: A woman sits down on their partner’s face while their partner performs oral sex on them.

Going back to the first statement, most women are afraid to try this out because they’re afraid to hurt their partners or be “too heavy” during the deed. That’s why despite the popularity of queening in pop culture, it’s still underrated.

If you’re interested but hesitant to try this out, here’s the sign you’re looking for: Sit on your partner’s face, madame! You may be missing out on some orgasmic fun that you can only get from this position. As long as you’re doing it properly, you won’t hurt your partner. And if you’re worried that they might get turned off by wanting to sit on their faces, you can simply ask your partner about it. Who knows… your partner is probably secretly wanting to try out this position too.

Now, if you’re still doubtful about this sultry position, we’re here to help you out. This guide is all about the queening position and its best variations. We will also share the benefits you and your partner can get from this position and tips to make your experience fuss-free. Let’s get started!

Benefits of Face Sitting During Sex

You might not realize it, but engaging in face sitting positions can bring many benefits— better orgasms, closer bond, boosted confidence. Learn more about these perks here.

1You’re in control.

One of the main benefits that you can get from face sitting positions is that you’ll be in control of the whole thing. Want faster flicking on your clitoris? You can gently grind against your partner’s tongue or nose. More pressure? You can push your vulva on your partner’s mouth. Lighter pressure? Just lightly lift yourself up.

2You’re providing VIP access.

Some people think that queening is only beneficial to the receiver. However, that’s not necessarily the case. Most givers love this position because it gives them a full and detailed view of their lover’s pussy. Some just get soooo turned on with that sultry sight! Some people also like doing this position as they can accurately hit those hard-to-reach spots with their tongue since they get to see the whole thing.

3You’ll have a stronger bond with your lover.

You might not realize it, but engaging in face sitting positions is such an intimate and vulnerable position for both parties. The giver gives their full trust by allowing the “Queen” to sit down on their face, while the receiver expresses their vulnerability by exposing their full heavenly glory to their partner. Exploring and leveling up your sexcapades can also make you closer to them.

4You may orgasm quicker than usual.

As we’ve mentioned earlier, face sitting positions give your partner a full and detailed view of your vulva and vagina. It also provides a better angle, making your partner stimulate those sweet spots with ease. Not only that, if you’re a domme type, just being able to take full control can make you more aroused than before.

5It’s empowering!

Aside from providing a full view and being in control, doing face sitting positions during sex can be a confidence booster. You’ll feel like a Queen sitting on her most prized throne! This also helps you become more confident and enthusiastic in getting what you want.

And if you’re worried that your partner might get turned off for that… Oh honey, remove those hesitations away. There is nothing hotter than a woman who knows what she wants during sex and is vocal about how much she wants it.

Best Face Sitting Positions

Now that you’ve learned about the different benefits that you and your partner can get from queening, we hope that you’ll try this position on your next sex sesh. But if you’re still uncomfortable with the idea of face sitting, no worries. You can hold it off for a while; just do it when you’re fully ready.

As for those that are trying this oral sex position out, you’re in for a treat! We’ve listed the best face sitting positions below. Read on!

1Queening

Let’s start off the classic. For this position, the giver should like down on their backs. Facing your partner, gently climb on top of them, with your pussy just right on their face. The giver must then grab your waist as you start straddling them. Make sure to give your partner a few inches of breathing room before settling on the oral action.

To keep the experience fun and safe, make sure you have something to hold on to while your partner eats you out. It could be the bedpost or a bracket on the wall, anything to keep you balanced.

2Reverse Queening

This face sitting position is basically like the first one; the only difference is that you’re facing away. What’s great about the Reverse Queening, though, is that it provides a better angle for the clitoris. This is also the perfect position for rimming since the giver also gets access to your booty.

3The Buzzing Ride

This position is another variant of the reverse queening position. But instead of solely relying on your partner’s tongue, you will also get the help of your buzzing sex toys for additional sensations.

To start off, have the giver lie on their back while you climb on top of them, facing away. As they perform cunnilingus or analingus on you, they can use a mini vibrator, butt plug, anal beads, or clitoral suckers. Trust us; you’ll surely reach the heavenly orgasmic gates with this one!

4Frisky Feast

If you want to get the “five-star dining” sexperience, check out this fun position. The giver will lie down on the table, with their head over the edge of the table. You will stand right on the edge of the table, gently positioning yourself right above the giver’s head. Your partner will then perform oral sex in a totally different way than normal.

What’s great about this position is that you’ll get the full view of your partner’s body. It’s also good for couples that are wanting to try unique sex positions. However, you need to be extra cautious when doing the Frisky Feast. Someone might end up with a broken neck if you’re both not careful enough!

5Hail the Goddess

If you’re looking for face sitting positions that can be done in the shower, try this one out. Start by leaning back against the wall or door, with your legs spread wide. The giver will then kneel in front of you and perform cunnilingus on you. If you want to give your partner more access, you may place your foot or leg on a short stool or on your partner’s shoulder.

6Heir to the Throne

Wanna receive that royal treatment? You should definitely try this one. To do this position, you would need to sit down on a chair or sofa, spreading your legs wide. Your partner will then kneels on the floor, pleasing your full glory with their tongue, finger, and/or sex toys.

Bonus Tip: Spice things up by wearing a sultry yet elegant garment, just like Cecilia’s iconic green dress from the film Atonement. Don’t wear any underwear and let your partner please you while wearing the dress.

7Sofa Surprise

If you’re looking for face sitting positions that involve an armchair, then check this one out. For starters, have your man sit down on the sofa, leaning against the back of the furniture. You will then kneel on the armrests, positioning your vulva near the giver’s face.

Stabilize your body by holding on to the back of the armchair. Your partner can then grab your booty or waist as they stimulate your clitoris with their tongue. They can also finger your vagina with this erotic position.

8Queening for One

Going solo? No worries, as you can still engage in face sitting positions during solo play. All you need is your trusty vibrator, preferably a lay-on vibrator and/or your clit sucker. Put the love toy on the pillow, then climb on top of it, positioning the device right on your clitoris. After that, you can rock back and forth and enjoy the breathtaking sensations!

9Wild Queen

We get that it might look awkward at first glance, but trust us, you’ll enjoy this queening position— especially for those into primal sex. Start by climbing on top of the table and squatting with your back to the edge. Keep your balance by pressing your palms to the tabletop. The giver will then sit in a chair backward, with their upper body leaned back and their face on your crotch.

Once everything is positioned, your partner can then perform cunnilingus or rimming. They can also finger you or penetrate your vagina with a vibrator or dildo.

10The Queen’s Exhibit

Looking for face sitting positions that are exceptionally sensual and explicit? Want to be all out when showing your heavenly pussy to your partner? Well, take the sultry road to big Os with this position.

The Queen’s Exhibit requires somewhat decent flexibility on your end since you’ll be splitting your legs wide. To start off, sit on the back of the sofa, grabbing the backrest to balance your body. After that, you would slowly lean your body back and spread your legs wide. The giver will then sit on the sofa— their face between your legs and their hands on your bum. Your partner can then start performing oral sex on you.

Face Sitting Sex Tips

Now that you’ve learned the best face sitting positions, we can sense your excitement about these positions. But just hold it in for a sec. You must know the proper way of queening, as this will minimize the mishaps that could happen during the deed. With that, here are some tips and tricks when sitting on your partner’s face.

1Ask for your partner’s consent first.

If you’re interested in trying this activity, share it with your partner and ask for their consent. Don’t surprise them during the deed— your partner might be uncomfortable with it, and instead of having a good time, the night might end up in a conflict.

A simple “I love it so much when you eat me out… Can we try it while I’m sitting on your face?” will do. You can also take the lauvblog approach: Share this lauvblog article with your partner and tell them that you’re interested in trying queening.

2Establish non-verbal signals.

Since queening doesn’t give your partner that much space for speaking, it’s important to establish non-verbal signals. For example, if you ask your partner if they’re okay, they can gently pinch your hand; If they want you to lift your body up or stop the act, they hold your wrist. Having these signals will ensure your partner’s safety and comfort throughout the deed.

3Use flavored lube!

Want to spice things up while doing these face sitting positions? Apply water-based flavored lubricants on your vulva! Not only it provides a smoother glide during oral and penetrative sex, but it also provides an additional flavor to your lady juices.

4Support yourself or find something to hold on to.

Just to clarify things up, face sitting shouldn’t be taken literally. You should still be supporting your weight while doing this position. That’s why we highly suggest doing these face sitting sex positions on places that you can hold on to, such as your bed; you can hold on the bedpost for extra support. By doing this, you will stop thinking about keeping your balance and instead focus on the blissful sensations.

4Experiment!

When doing these face sitting positions, don’t just focus on one position. As long as you and your partner are capable of doing it, experiment with different queening variants. We also suggest incorporating sex toys during the deed, such as vibrators and butt plugs. Besides that, you can also add your kinks in the mix, such as BDSM and roleplaying.

Takeaway

Engaging in face sitting positions can be extremely hot for your partner and super empowering on your end. It also allows you to give your partner full access to your sweetest spots. As long as you both do it properly and be cautious with it, you and your partner will surely have a grand time with these queening positions.

However, if you’ve reached the end of the guide and queening is still not appealing on your end, that’s perfectly fine. Besides, face sitting isn’t the only sex position that you could experiment with. You can try yoga-inspired sex positions, standing sex positions, g-spot positions, or even sex positions with a vibrator. Choose what’s comfortable and pleasurable for you and your boo.