Disclaimer: This guide explores forced orgasm in a consensual BDSM context, where it’s seen as a way to explore power dynamics and ways to experience pleasure— in which all consenting adults prioritize safety, communication, and clear boundaries. We do not, in any way, encourage or condone sexual assault or abuse.
Without consent, forced orgasms become sexual assault—a serious violation. Anyone who has been subjected to this must report it to the authorities.
What is Forced Orgasm?
According to Healthline, forced orgasm has two very distinct meanings. The common definition refers to a BDSM practice involving two consenting adults—a dominant and a submissive. In this context, the dominant partner takes control for sexually stimulating the submissive, who is the one “forced” to orgasm. It’s also a popular trope or theme in ‘dark romance’ novels, which often explore unconventional and sexually charged topics.
The other definition of forced orgasm refers to orgasms that occur during an assault. The orgasms in this context didn’t derive from pleasure but rather the body’s involuntary physical response. It’s deeply harmful, violates personal boundaries, and is a form of sexual assault or abuse.
We’ve already mentioned this in the disclaimer, but this guide does not promote or encourage sexual assault whatsoever. Forced orgasm, as a kink, must be done with consenting adults.
How Forced Orgasm Differ by Assigned Sex
People with penises and people with vulvas experience forced orgasms differently, mainly because of the difference in their refractory periods— it’s the time right after climax when someone’s body isn’t responsive to sexual stimulation. The person might feel uninterested in sex, or they might be physically unable to keep going. For example, someone with a penis may not be able to get an erection again right away during their refractory period.
People with vulvas tend to have shorter refractory periods, meaning they can sometimes orgasm again within minutes or even seconds. Forced orgasm for them often involves continuous stimulation that leads to multiple, intense climaxes, sometimes to the point where they’re shaking or squirting.
Meanwhile, people with penises typically have longer refractory periods, which can last from hours to even a few days. Because of this, forced orgasm often involves bringing them to the edge of climax repeatedly without letting them finish.
Once their body has calmed down, the dominant partner may then resume stimulation, keeping them in a cycle of arousal and denial. The orgasm from the session can be incredibly intense to the point that it might even be uncomfortable for them.
Is It Safe?
Forced orgasm can be safe as long as it’s planned out properly and high-quality tools or toys are used.
While there are some risks, they’re generally related to genital soreness or tenderness from extended stimulation. If you or your partner experience this, simply taking a break after the session should help.
In rare cases, excessive orgasms can cause lightheadedness due to factors like elevated heart rate, erratic breathing, or blood pressure changes. This is usually more of a concern for those with certain health conditions. If you or your submissive partner have heart issues or any related conditions, it’s best to consult a healthcare provider before trying it out.
What to Prepare
Preparing for a forced orgasm session is pretty simple and usually involves the following activities:
1Initial Discussion
The dominant and submissive must first discuss expectations, desires, and limits in their session. If they haven’t already agreed on a safeword, it is time to establish one. A safeword is a unique word unrelated to the scene itself, and when used, it signals an immediate stop to the session.
2Pre-Session Prep
You don’t need a ton of gear for a forced orgasm session; even a simple scarf and a bottle of lube can work perfectly. The dominant can use the scarf to gently tie up the submissive, and then focus on stimulating the sub’s erogenous zones.
However, some couples prefer using multiple sex toys, bringing out BDSM furniture, and even using multiple lubricants and stimulants. If you’re going on this route, only choose sex toys and BDSM gear made from high-quality materials.
While a toy breaking mid-session is often more inconvenient than dangerous, certain items—like thrusting vibrators or sex machines—can pose risks if they malfunction. Investing in well-made products helps ensure everything runs smoothly, making you and your partner focus on the deed.
Aside from the sex toys and lubricants, the couple should also set up a private space where they won’t be interrupted. This could be your bedroom, a hotel room, or even a themed motel room to add a more immersive vibe.
Other essentials to have on hand include towels, condoms (in case things heat up and lead to intercourse), and plenty of water for the submissive. Forced orgasm sessions can be physically intense, causing the sub to sweat a lot, so staying hydrated is key to preventing dehydration. And if you’re going to use ropes, make sure that rope scissors are within reach to quickly cut through the ropes in case of an emergency.
Ways to Engage In This Kink
After the pre-session prep, let’s now talk about the activities that can be done during a forced orgasm session. Please note that this is not an exhaustive list, and you might find other ways you and your partner play along with this kink.
1Solo Play
For those who enjoy solo play, you can absolutely experiment with forced orgasm on your own! Here’s an example for those with vulvas. Start by positioning a vibrator, thrusting vibrator, or sex machine so that it rests right against your clitoris or vaginal opening. You may need to adjust and test the position a few times until it hits just the right spot.
Once set up, hop onto the bed and secure your wrists with handcuffs. To add a bit of a challenge, you can make untying yourself a bit trickier by placing the key inside an ice cube (prepped in advance). You’ll need to wait for the ice to melt before you can access the key and free yourself.
Another option is to use ice locks—these are locks you can attach to your cuffs that only release once the ice inside melts. The melting time varies depending on the type of ice lock you’re using, so you can choose a duration that fits your comfort level.
For people with penises, solo forced orgasm setups are a bit different. They can use restraints like those with vulvas might, but they can’t masturbate properly, or if they use a sex toy like a masturbator and prostate massager, they might reach climax too quickly since there’s no way to pause stimulation.
So for male individuals, we recommend manually edging your body. You can use your hands, a masturbator, or a prostate massager until you’re close to climax, then pause and pull away for a set amount of time. After the waiting period, they can resume, repeating this cycle as many times as they like until you’re ready for release. You can also wear a cock ring to further prolong their erection, but you must not wear this for more than 30 minutes.
2All Tied Up
This setup usually involves the submissive being restrained—either with ropes or cuffs—while the dominant takes charge of all the teasing and stimulation.
Some couples take it up a notch with a customized chair specifically made for forced orgasms. Furniture like this can be a game-changer, as it frees up the dominant’s hands, allowing them to explore other erogenous zones and intensify the experience.
-
₱200.00 -
₱1,680.00
-
₱795.00 -
₱850.00
3Pressured in Public
Another way for couples to enjoy forced orgasms—though not suitable for most public situations—involves having the submissive wear remote-controlled or app-controlled toys, like vibrating panties, love eggs, or anal plugs. The dominant can then control the toy remotely in public, making the submissive orgasm in unexpected moments or places— the sub must keep their composure or it may lead to a playful punishment.
As mentioned, this kind of play should be avoided in sacred spaces and family-friendly areas. Aim for adult-oriented spots, like bars or nightclubs, where a little mischief is expected and less likely to cause discomfort. That way, you and your partner can explore the thrill without crossing any lines or making others uncomfortable.
4Long-Distance Play
Now, for those who are in long-distance relationships but are interested in exploring this kind of play, it’s doable through app-controlled sex toys. All the submissive needs to do is wear the sex toy, hop onto the call with the dominant, and let the dom control the sex toys. The sub can try self-bondage for added visuals and immersion, but letting the dom control the device can suffice.
Tips
Now that you’ve learned about the different styles of play that you can explore with forced orgasm, let’s go over some key tips to keep in mind—especially if you’re new to this kink:
1Dominant should check in with the sub throughout the deed.
Even if the dominant has gotten the submissive’s consent to use certain teasing and stimulation techniques, they can still do whatever they want. Everything must be discussed beforehand, and if the dominant thinks of something new out of spontaneity, they must inform and get consent from the sub before trying it.
While forced orgasm play often involves power dynamics or fantasies, the dominant must still check in with the submissive throughout. These check-ins don’t have to feel clinical or disrupt the vibe—instead, something as simple as “You like that (naughty nickname?)” keeps things hot and safe. This way, the dominant can gauge the submissive’s comfort level without breaking the scene, ensuring everyone feels good about what’s happening.
2Use high-quality sex toys and BDSM equipment.
If you’re planning to include multiple sex toys in your session, it’s best to stick with reputable brands. Trusted names like Satisfyer, Lovense, Lelo, Svakom, Womanizer, We-Vibe, Romp, and Tenga are known for top-quality products designed with strict safety standards. Their products are made with high-quality, body-safe toys, ensuring they withstand even your rockiest and wildest sessions.
Few furniture makers specialize in BDSM furniture, so you might DIY some pieces. If you do, prioritize your partner’s comfort in the design and build. While forced orgasms and BDSM play can get intense—and sometimes even uncomfortable—it’s important to ensure that the submissive isn’t experiencing unnecessary discomfort.
-
₱5,845.00
-
₱4,899.00 -
₱4,899.00 -
₱2,975.00
3Always follow safe sex practices.
Like with other sexual activities, you always need to follow safe sex practices. This includes using condoms during intercourse, avoiding the sharing of penetrative toys, cleaning yourself and your toys before and after, and staying hydrated. These precautions help minimize risks, such as STIs or unintended pregnancy, and keep things safe and pleasurable for everyone involved.
-
₱350.00 -
-
₱99.00 -
Original price was: ₱190.00.₱165.00Current price is: ₱165.00.
4Aftercare is a must.
Forced orgasm sessions can get incredibly intense, which is why aftercare is a must. It’s time for both partners to chill out, reconnect, and feel grounded again.
Some couples love unwinding by watching a favorite show, taking a warm shower together, or just lying in each other’s arms, talking about random things that have nothing to do with the session. Whatever you choose, aftercare is all about sharing a calming, comforting vibe so you both end on a relaxed note.
Recommended Sex Toys
Ready to try a forced orgasm sesh? Whether you’re flying solo or with a partner, here are some top-quality love toys you could use on the deed.
Takeaway
Forced orgasm can mean different things depending on anatomy. For people with vulvas, it often involves reaching climax multiple times, while for people with penises, it may mean prolonging arousal and edging without climaxing.
It’s a fun and liberating experience for some, but it’s not for everyone— and that’s perfectly okay. You don’t have to push yourself into these activities if you and your partner aren’t comfortable with them—what matters is that you and your partner are happy and satisfied.
