The Ropes of Frotting: Everything You Need To Know About It

Ever heard of frotting? Well, the gay couples out there may want to try it out to spice up their sexcapades!

We get that it sounds like a coffee-brewing technique or something that you would hear in a cottagecore forum, but hear us out. Frotting is a sexual activity that doesn’t involve penetration. It may not be as intense as anal play or blowjobs, but it’ll surely provide the immense pleasure you and your lover will love.

If you want to know more about frottage sex, we’re here to help you out. Learn about the art of frot in this guide.

What is Frotting?

Frotting, also known as frot or frottage sex, is a male-to-male erotic activity wherein two people would rub each other’s erect penises. The term originated from the French verb “frotter,” which means “to rub.”

This activity was popularized by gay men activists way back in 2005. They believe that anal penetration is an efficient transmission mode for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV/AIDS, HPV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis B and C, Herpes, and Chlamydia.

The mentioned belief soon evolved, especially when gay men realized that frotting can also cause certain sexually transmitted infections. Still, there are organizations out there that use frotting as a way to villainize anal penetration.

Remember that we’re encouraging frot not because we’re against anal sex but because it’s a fun sexual activity. It also comes with various benefits, all of which you’ll find out in the next section.

Benefits of Frotting

For those who have never tried frotting, you’re probably wondering what makes this activity fun and pleasurable. Below are some of the reasons why penis-rubbing is a must-try.

1It’s great for couples who aren’t fans of anal or penetrative sex.

Here’s the thing, not all gay men are into anal penetration. If you’re one of those gays who aren’t a fan of anal play, your preferences are valid, and there’s no shame for wanting something else. Introducing alternatives such as frotting is important, providing more options to gay couples and feeling less pressured as well.

2It adds variety to your erotic sessions.

Instead of repeatedly doing the same sexual activities, why not spice it up with some frotting? Another perk here is it gives you more options on what to do during your sensual sessions.

3It minimizes your chances of getting some sexually transmitted infections.

As mentioned earlier, frottage sex can prevent you from getting some sexually transmitted infections, such as HIV (human immunodeficiency virus), gonorrhea, and chlamydia; these STIs can only be spread by infected bodily fluids through anal penetration.

However, there are STIs that you can get from skin-to-skin contact, such as Herpes, Syphilis, HPV (human papillomavirus), and Molluscum contagiosum (an infection that causes raised, itchy, and fluid-filled bumps). We recommend doing this sexual practice with clothes, just in case you’re doing this deed with someone new.

4There’s a lot of skinship involved in this activity.

Frottage sex involves a lot of penis-rubbing, humping, grinding, kissing, hugging, and massaging. The skinship level is intense, which is great for couples who want to be more intimate in the bedroom. Most of the sex positions applicable in this activity are also face-to-face ones. So if you want to exchange sweet nothings or sizzling dirty phrases on one another, you’ll love the frot!

5It simply feels good!

Contrary to popular belief, you can please your penis without anal penetration or mouth stimulation. The penile pleasure center is the head of the penis (glans). This zone has about 4,000 nerve endings and is incredibly sensitive. When engaging in frotting, you’ll be rubbing your glans with your partner’s glans, resulting in climax-inducing sensations.

Frotting Tips

Frottage sex is an easy and highly pleasurable activity. It’s one of the underrated gay sexual activities, and we highly recommend trying it out with your partner. As for those planning to do it or have done it before, below are some tips to ensure a fun and safe frot play.

1Try solo frotting.

Yes, solo frotting is a thing. If you’re not in a relationship and want to try this sensual act, you can use the corner of your table, edge of the bed frame, or any other object that you can safely rub your penis into— emphasis on the term “safely.” Make sure that you’re only rubbing your penis on appliances or objects that aren’t sharp. Better yet, just order male sex toys, such as dildos, and have a blast with them.

2Start with a steamy lingam massage.

Building anticipation is a must in every sexual act. Instead of going directly to frotting, we recommend giving sensual massages to one another first, such as lingam massage. If you’ve just heard about that term, the lingam is a tantric massage practice that involves massaging different key areas on the penis. Contrary to popular belief, this practice isn’t necessarily designed for pleasure but to build up sexual energy.

You may check out our recommended article below to see how you can incorporate a lingam massage in your frottage plays.

3Ride and glide with lube!

Never forget this tip… for real, though. It’ll make your frottage sex comfier and more fun! Before you start rubbing, apply water-based or silicone-based lube on each other’s hard-ons. It’ll give a smoother groove as you grind throughout the night. We also highly suggest warming or cooling lubes as the extra sensations make the frottage more pleasurable.

4Do it while fully clothed.

Another fun way to practice frot is by doing it with clothes on. The fabric may provide additional sensations. It’s also the safest way to engage in frotting as there’s no skin-to-skin contact. Not only that, but fully-clothed frottage allows you to dress up and immerse yourself in a sensual scenario.

For instance, you can pretend as a cop while your partner is a seductive prisoner, or you can be a doctor while your lover pretends as a patient.

5Incorporate sex toys in the deed.

Another great way to spice up your frot sessions is by using sex toys, such as mini vibrators, lay-on vibrators, anal plugs, dildos, prostate massagers, ticklers, etc.

First, you can use sex toys to amplify the sensations during a frotting sesh. For example, you can place a lay-on vibrator on your own or your partner’s balls while engaging in the activity; the vibrations will add that extra “oomph” to the deed.

Second, sex toys can stimulate other areas while you’re busy rubbing each other out. You can use anal plugs or prostate massagers to stimulate your prostate.

Best Frotting Sex Positions

It’s given that missionary is one of the best sex positions for frot play. Still, if you’re gonna use that every time, you may get easily bored with this activity. Say yes to more variety with the frottage sex positions below.

1Sit & Frot

This position is basically what the title says. You will be sitting in a chair while your other partner sits on your lap. Look into each other’s eyes, make out for a bit, caress each other’s body, and proceed with frotting.

2Rare Trick

This one might look complex at first glance… and indeed, it’s complex as it looks. This is why it’s called a “rare trick,” as it’s harder to pull off. But if you’ll be able to frot with this advanced sex position, oh, it’ll be so worth it!

For starters, you need to stand sideways on the bed. Your right leg should touch the bedside, while your left leg is slightly bent and is raised up. As you raise your left leg upwards, your body may end up tilting down, so make sure to use your arms as support; stretch them and place them on the bed.

Your partner will stand behind you, lifting his leg and putting it sideways just on the bed’s edge. His right leg must stay close to your right leg, while his left leg will bend and is raised upwards. He will then hold you for extra support. Once positioned, proceed with the deed.

3Frot-Cross

This is one of the frottage sex positions that would work for beginners. For this one, you’ll need to lie down on your side, slightly bending both of your legs while the left leg is raised. Your partner will then sit on top of your right leg while putting the raised left leg in between his legs. After that, start rubbing!

4Gemini

Looking for an intimate frottage position? The Gemini will work wonders for you and your boo. Both of you must sit in front of each other, putting each other’s legs and thighs on one another. Once you’re close enough, hold each other and start grinding. What’s great about this position is that there’s space for a steamy makeout sesh— two sensual activities in one!

5Rub Love

Another intimate position on the list is Rub Love. This is pretty simple and works well for beginners. All you need to do is lie on your back while your partner is on top of you. You can then cuddle, kiss, and frot all night long.

6Harp

Another good-for-beginners position on the list is the Harp. You need to lie on your side, with your left leg straight on the bed and your right leg raised upwards. Your partner will then kneel in between your left leg and start rubbing. This is also a great sex position if you’re doing it in a motel or hotel room with a massive mirror on the side.

7Bump & Rub

Bump and grind with this simple yet sensual sex position. For this one, you and your partner must kneel down and face each other. Once positioned, you can now start frotting. That’s it— no acrobatic shenanigans required!

8Rabbit Ears

If you and your boo are looking for challenging frot positions, you’ve got to check this one out. The Rabbit Ears take frottage sex to a whole new level. However, before doing this, make sure that you or your lover is flexible enough to pull this off. If one of you has back problems, it’s better to skip this one.

For this position, you will need to get into a semi-squatting position, driving your legs as far as possible. Your partner will lie on their back, facing your anal region. Your partner will then slowly raise their legs until two-thirds of their body is raised up. Hold him firmly, right on the buttocks, for extra support. You can then proceed with the deed.

9Stand By Me

This frottage position is for advanced players, as it requires some lifting. You need to lift your partner up with your hands both on your partner’s feet. They’ll need to bend their legs. After that, proceed with the sensual activity.

10Basket

If you want a sex position that offers the ultimate skin-to-skin contact, you should add this to your to-do list. The Basket is pretty similar to the Gemini position, but you’ll be closer to your lover. First, you’ll need to sit down with your legs spreading out. Your partner will then sit right on your crotch area, with their legs resting on your shoulder and arms wrapped on your neck. Once positioned, proceed with the intimate frotting.

Best Frotting Sex Techniques

Have more exciting frotting sex with these pleasurable techniques to try next!

1Good Ol’ Rub

This technique is classic, the default way to frot with your partner. Holding your erect penis from the base, you slowly press it against your partner’s. Move in an up-and-down motion at a slow pace first. Then hasten it once you’re both fully aroused and ready to take things up a notch. You can also add some stroking, wherein your hand strokes their cock and vice versa as you frot for that extra, blended pleasure.

2Tip to Tip

Quite similar to the previous tip, except it’s just the tips of your penises as the focus. Rub them up and down to ignite pleasure, especially with lube! And for added safety measures, please wear condoms to avoid any STI transmission.

3Swirling

Instead of doing this technique with your tongue, follow the motion with your cocks! With your cocks being close and almost pressed against one another, one cock moves in a clockwise motion while the other moves in a counterclockwise motion. You can move as slowly or quickly as you want, building up the mood and pleasure.

4Grinding

Instead of doing this technique with your tongue, follow the motion with your cocks! With your cocks being close and almost pressed against one another, one cock moves in a clockwise motion while the other moves in a counterclockwise motion. You can move as slowly or quickly as you want, building up the mood and pleasure.

5Buzzing and Moving

Take things up a notch with a cock ring of your choice! You can either rub or grind against your partner’s cock with cock rings on both of your cocks. That way, you get that extra electrifying bliss as you move against each other!

Aside from a cock ring, you can use a wand massage that can tease your tips as foreplay while frotting one another.

Frotting Essentials

After reading our guide, are you now convinced about trying out this feisty activity? If you’re up for some frotting tonight, don’t forget to grab some of the frot essentials below.

1 Lube

We mentioned this earlier, but we want to re-emphasize it!

If you choose to engage in frotting with your bare cocks, using lube can make your movements more wet and slippery. Since skin-to-skin contact can cause friction, lube prevents that from happening. It can come in different consistencies, such as water-based, oil-based, silicone-based, and a combination of all. So if you want a seamless experience with frotting that also unlocks new sensations, don’t miss out on the lube!

2 Dildo

Partnered frotting doesn’t have to be between two people. Having a dildo to play with it is possible, and it can make your frotting experience more thrilling. As long as you purchase one that’s made of body-safe material and has no sharp edges or irritating spots that can affect your body, using a dildo is a-okay.
Plus if you think about it, this type of frotting is also a type of solo frotting. Call it range!

3 Cock Rings

Another take on solo frotting is using cock rings! If you want to keep your cock up as you touch yourself, these sex toys can do the trick. The extra perk with cock rings is that some variants can vibrate!

4 Clothes

If you’re not engaging in naked frotting, you must be clothed down there. Wearing cotton underwear is a comfortable option that won’t give you that chaffing sensation.

5 Towels

As you reach your o’s and lube is used, it can leave a mess! Don’t forget to clean your space with towels to avoid staining. Use the towels to wipe your cocks as well, preventing any STIs from affecting your health.

Takeaway

And there you have it, the ultimate beginner’s guide to frotting! You can be into it, you may be not! And that’s okay because we all have our own preferences! But in case this activity is right by your alley, remember that safety is above all else. From there, you can explore and experiment as much as you want to!

Trying it tonight? Don’t forget to order some of the sex-ssentials. Lauvette offers same-day delivery in Metro Manila, so you can get your toys within hours. Don’t also forget to follow the tips above to ensure a fun experience. Happy frotting!