12 Common Habits That Negatively Affect Sex Life

Did you know that there are certain habits that negatively affect sex life? Well, it’s time to evaluate how you’ve been having sex and see if any changes should be made. 

Keep reading this short guide on those habits and how to solve them.

1 You’re stressed AF.

Too much stress overtakes your mental space, losing interest in other things, including sex. This can also lead to lots of body tension, stiffening your body. Thus, sex may hurt you.

Solution: Pinpoint the roots of your stress. Is it from family? Work? Important responsibilities like taxes? Establish boundaries, may it be between work vs. life, your identity as you vs. family, and whatever else applies to you. It’s also helpful to carve out time for stress relief, like pencil book it now so no one can try to reach you during that time.

2 You overindulge in vices.

Sure, we’ve all had a drink or two in our lives. Even smoked out of curiosity or only during social events. However, it’s a different story when they’re a default in your day-to-day lives. Drinking too much can make your body less aroused (ever heard of drunk dick?), while smoking can mess with your blood levels, which are then linked to your sexual health.

Solution: For drinking, doing it in moderation is ideal. With smoking, you may want to seek help in cutting it out. The same can also be said about drinking.

3 You’re too busy.

Whether from work, dealing with kids, or other responsibilities that constantly need your attention, you place your sex life under your pyramid of needs. As a result, your intimacy and bond with your partner get compromised, and you no longer have the quality time for another to catch up and at least see each other.

Solution: Schedule sex throughout your week. You might think it sounds unsexy, but really, doing this shows how you value intimacy in your relationship and that it’s important. Make sure to really stick to it, and adjust when your days pile up with unexpected occurrences.

4 You constantly criticize your body.

You can either be your biggest cheerleader or enemy. The words you tell yourself can either make or break you. By saying negative things about yourself, it lowers your self-image and self-esteem. The words of others may contribute here, deeming them as true.

Solution: It’s time to rewire your day-by-day by finding evidence that these degrading words and limiting beliefs about your body are not true. Moreover, you emphasize what aspects of yourself that you are happy to have. You can practice body neutrality here, focusing on what your body does for you rather than how it looks.

5 You don’t move your body.

You’re probably someone who prefers to stay still and lay on the couch all day when you want. Now look, that’s honestly a relaxing thing to do, but it’s best to balance it with movement. Any body movement can impact your body’s mobility in the long run. It also releases endorphins, making you feel rewarded and good in your body.

Solution: Explore different ranges of movement depending on the day. Do this until you find the ones that make you feel happy and good, which is also effortless for you to do.

6 You only connect with your sexual side before falling asleep.

If your daily schedule is packed and busy, your leisure time are the moments before going to bed. You may also feel rushed as you try to squeeze in other non-work-related activities in between.

Solution: Practice better time management and scheduling your extra tasks at the right time without overextending them. Desire is fluid all throughout, and it should be visited a lot often other than before going to bed.

7 You’re consuming too much salty and sugary foods.

Such foods make your movements more sluggish, lessening your energy all throughout the day. In turn, it impacts how you do the deed and your stamina and endurance when doing it.

Solution: Try doing the 80/20 method. You eat nutritious foods like fruits, vegetables, and proteins rich in omega-3s 80% of the time. then your own desires like desserts, chips, and fast food for the remaining 20%. You don’t necessarily have to give up anything, but more on portioning things a lot better.

8 You’re too attached to your phone.

Being so immersed and deep into social media and locking yourself in your phone makes you forego the present. Hence, you’re so isolated from what’s going on around you, and it can affect your relationships if you’re always on your phone around them. Like you’re there but not really?

With these things in mind, they can translate in the bedroom wherein you’re not as present in the deed and constantly compare your partner to the unrealistic pictures you see online. It makes them turned off by you and overall lowers your attraction for one another.

Solution: Try to cut off your screen time minutes before meeting with your partner. Use this free time to prepare the remaining things needed for your day/night together. Put your phone somewhere far away from you and on do not disturb mode too for lesser notifications so you’re fully connected with them. But of course, reach out when an emergency arises.

9 You skip the foreplay.

Like literally, you need foreplay to warm up your body and mind! To build the growing tension between you two. So without it, everything may feel uneventful and even rushed. 

Solution: You may need to schedule your sexcapades better, just like what we mentioned earlier in another tip. Skipping the foreplay

10 You stick to the same things every time.

So you’re doing the same sex positions, same kinks, same places of doing the deed. Yawn. When things get boring, the libido and attraction towards your partner decreases.

Solution: Switch things up each time you have sex. Start small with dirty talk, then escalate it through different kinks and practices. Nothing changes if nothing changes!

11 You’re not using sexual safety methods.

From birth control to condoms, they’re not something you’d use when you have partnered sex. That’s dangerous when there are sexually transmitted infections and unexpected pregnancies at risk.

Solution: Further study each safe sex and birth control method out there, from pills to barrier methods, and their importance. From there, choose the most suitable ones. Condoms, however, must always be present for overall protection. Thus, choose the type that fits you right and comfortably.

12 You don’t use lube.

Lube aids in making any sexual activity run and flow smoothly, alongside unlocking more feel-good sensations. Skipping on this, whether or not there’s natural lubrication present, may make the sex less comfortable and enjoyable.

Solution: Learn the different types of lubricants and figure out which one fits your preferences the most. You can apply it before the deed or in between sessions to keep things flowing effortlessly.

Takeaway

It’s important to be cautious of how we treat and prioritize our sexual sides. Ignoring it can decrease your bond with your partner (if applicable) and even introduce you to health problems. Thus, we hope you apply the solutions we provided per habit above.

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