What is Degradation Kink? 170+ Spicy Ideas Worth The Pain

Kinks can make your personality more interesting. For example, you can be the most independent and empowered person who won’t take any backlash from anyone. But when you reach the bedroom, you adore performing Degradation Kink to achieve those O’s by your partner (given if you’re a submissive).

The idea of Degradation Kink seems insulting or soul-crushing. But it’s interesting to see how many people are turned on when they’re committed. Whether it starts off as being spanked or called vulgar pet names, they add more flavor in the bedroom or out in public.

So if you think Degradation is a possible kink of yours, this article offers you a clearer breakdown of this naughty kink, sultry ideas to put it into action, and important tips on how to practice it with your partner successfully.

What is Degradation Kink?

Degradation Kink, or Erotic Degradation, is a kink wherein one stems arousal or pleasure through consensual acts of humiliation or dishonorable exchange of words. This kink may be done publicly or privately, as roleplay or out of preference on a normal day. It depends on your and your partner’s dynamics.

This kink falls under sadism and masochism in the BDSM spectrum between the dominant and submissive. Or rather, the degrader and the degradee as it sparks humiliation.  Especially to the latter in and outside the playroom.

Types of Degradation Kink

Degradation is a broad kink filled with diverse ways to apply it. Whether in the bedroom, public, or playroom (if you’re into BDSM), one keyword to keep in mind was mentioned earlier – humiliation. Defined as the mental state of shame when someone (dominant/degrader) acts or speaks in an insulting manner towards the target (submissive/degradee), the sexual idea around this is how both benefit from and enjoy it.

Degradation Kink is categorized into four types: Physical Humiliation, Verbal Humiliation, Sexual Humiliation, and Public Humiliation.

1 Physical Humiliation

This type involves coerced actions that can be sexual or non-sexual ordered by the degrader to their degradee. Make sure to build up your stamina as your body will be pained and toyed around like you’re not human.

2 Verbal Humiliation 

This kind requires insulting words that target the submissive’s being. Whether it’s how they look, act, or choose to taunt them non-stop, the impact of words is powerful, especially when it’s an attack on the submissive’s dignity.

3 Sexual Humiliation

This type consists of demeaning actions and words aimed at the submissive by their dominant regarding their sexual performance. Whether it’s in the way they’ve been performing intercourse or even their genitalia, they stem embarrassment when they cannot please or receive pleasure correctly.

4 Public Humiliation

This kind requires viewers when the degrader and degradee are doing vulgar actions. This is achievable face to face or on the deep, dark web as social media has become a part of our societal lifestyle.

Why do people like the Degradation Kink?

There’s no surprise for people to question the roots of interest in degradation. Who would allow their dignity to get crushed by another person for pleasure? Who in their right mind gets off to this? Why would you fantasize about such a downgrading scenario?

We get it – treasuring your self-esteem is important, especially with the awareness of self-love constantly advocated. However, don’t let these thoughts be an excuse to kink shame others who enjoy it.

With that in mind, here are some insights we’ve gathered to offer a better perspective behind the minds of those aroused by Degradation Kink.

1 For the dominant, it makes them feel more confident and powerful.

Dominants already have the upper hand ever since, so what more when they take it up a notch? They chose their position for the sense of authentic superiority over their submissive, using them to their maximum pleasure. Plus, making sure the submissive is enjoying themselves.

There’s an extra ego boost when their actions fully humiliate their partner, relishing their pain and hurt (respectfully, of course). Their neediness and whines from every attentive move you give them, those sensations motivate them to keep going. This kink is another way for dominants to release some steam.

2 There’s that feeling of reward afterward for submissives.

Picture this: when you’re experiencing struggles in a difficult task (up to you what you think of), it’s relieving to finish it with flying colors. For submissives, when they challenge themselves to venture into Degradation, it’s only natural that they’ll want to do well. After all, they always aim to please their dominants.

Because there’s nothing sweeter than the reward of absolute pleasure when they latch on to their dominant’s orders. So submissives – don’t disobey your dominants for this kink.

3 It adds more flavor and spice to one’s sexual lifestyle.

Let’s say your sex life hasn’t been so fun. You’re performing the same ‘ol things in bed because it’s the default and easiest choice when you want to achieve those O’s. However, trying out new kinks shall be a breeze with proper communication and timing.

And for those with Erotic Degradation, there are numerous activities you can commit to for more mind-blowing O’s (we’ll discuss later)!

4 There’s an addicting thrill when you step outside your comfort zone.

Whenever people think about stepping out of their comfort zone, the first few emotions they pick up are fear and isolation. 

• Am I on the right path? 
• What if I lose myself in the process? 
• Should I continue?

This kind of mental dilemma also applies when experimenting with new kinks because you’ll never truly know what you want unless you try it yourself. But once you take that first leap, there’s that rush of excitement that races your veins. The thrill of doing more of it and seeing where it goes is feeling the fear and then putting time and effort into trying it that urges you to be open and free.

Erotic Degradation sets many inhibitions free between the dominant and submissive. Then the more you let go, the more you want to do it repeatedly.

5 The feeling of pain and hurt turns the couple on even more.

If you’re either a sadist or masochist, Degradation is the perfect kink for you. 

But wait, what’s the difference between the two?

Sadism is gaining erotic pleasure from the intentional infliction of pain towards your partner. Meanwhile, masochism is experiencing erotic pleasure from being humiliated or hurt by another party. These two definitions are based on the book Psychopathia Sexualis by German psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing.

Back to the main point, degradation kink can ignite intensified feelings in you. Being in the zone of whatever position you hold, you’d be too engrossed in the scene unfolding. You could pay closer attention and learn more about your partner as you go along. See what works and what doesn’t.

The creativity of finding more ways to degrade each other to get off becomes stronger. You may never know what can happen the next time you engage in this kink.

Physical Degradation Ideas to Try

On to (one of the) exciting parts! If you’re ready to get down and dirty, then brace yourselves with our curated list of ideas to give a try the next time you have ~spicy~ time with your partner. We’ll be breaking it down per type to keep your mind curious and your private parts firing up, starting with the Physical type.

1 Release bodily fluids on their body.

Something about expelling fluids or secretions on the dominant’s side is one huge way they get to assert their dominance over their partner. It shows them that they’re giving themselves up to them, and them only. That they’re the only people who can make them feel this way. 

But also, it’s to show them that they’re in control and that they can’t do anything about it. 

Examples: 

1. Ejaculate on their face during sex. 
2. Spit on their face or their private parts. 
3. Give them a golden shower— ask them to lie down and pee on them. 
4. Spread poop on any parts of their body. 
5. Massage their body with your cum, pee, or spit.
6. Pour semen on their dishes and force them to consume it.

2 Treat them like unhuman elements.

Degradation kink means losing your human dignity to please the dominant, so being “forced” to be their object is peak degradation. According to their dominant, submissives are ordered to act like inanimate items or creatures. Two themes go hand-in-hand here: erotic objectification (treating someone merely as an object) and animal play (a type of roleplay where they act like creatures).

Examples:

1. Play fetch with them.
2. Feed them in a dog bowl.
3. Make them crawl on all fours.
4. Place an animal tail on their butthole.
5. If you’re a smoker, make them act as your ashtray.
6. Lay your feet on their back like a chair.
7. Order them to be your trashcan.

3 Order them around with menial tasks.

Treating them like your personal help is one of the lowliest things you can do with another person. Having a superiority complex, where they are the more inferior one, is ego-boosting. Even when you can do those tasks, you’d rather let someone else do the dirty work for you. And boo-hoo, they can’t do anything else but obey their dominant.

Examples:

1. Give them homework.
2. Clean the house with just a toothbrush and soap.
3. Let them shave your hair (any body part).
4. Removing stains with your spit.
5. Ask them to bathe you in a tub.

4 Discipline them just because.

Megan Thee Stallion said, “You can’t hurt my feelings, but I like pain!”. Direct infliction of pain on the submissive’s body part or banning them from doing something natural strips of their dignity, yet the more it’s done to them, the more they can’t get ahold of themselves. If there’s a chance to disobey their dominant (or not at all), they’ll take whatever they can get from them.

Examples:

1. Spank their butt.
2. Slap their cheek.
3. Practice body worship, where the submissive embarrassingly kisses the body of the dominant.
4. Ban eye contact whenever they talk to you.
5. Whip them.

5 Make them follow a dress code. 

Dress codes are usually present for professional reasons, but they can work for kinky purposes to have the power battle. The ways to implement one between the dominant and submissive are endless, so see which one tickles your fancy.

Examples:

1. Wear a maid’s outfit during the day. 
2. “Force” cross-dressing or feminine items on male partners. 
3. Wear only lingerie around the house. 
4. “Force” nudity as you please. 
5. Dress them as a baby with a diaper, bib, and pacifier (plus points if you ban them from using the bathroom). 
6. As ownership, make them wear a collar.
7. Only let them wear crotchless undergarments.

6 Treat them like a child.

With children, you can never really take them seriously unless they act like a brat toward you. If that’s not the case, they have no say in what you ask them to do as you are the “older” figure in your dynamic. Even if they throw tantrums, they’re aware of the trouble they can get into by their dominant.

Examples:

1. Braid their hair (pubic can be included).
2. Force them to watch kid shows.
3. Only feed them baby food.
4. Wipe their lips.
5. Use only baby utensils.
6. Place them on your lap in their diaper.
7. Force them to sit on a high chair.
8. Buy them baby/kid toys.
9. Drive them to the ice cream store.
10. Have them walk behind you.

7 Ban privacy between the two of you.

We all have the right to have a sense of privacy within ourselves. However, with the physical side of the degradation kink, submissives can say bye-bye to that. Having no filter between partners doesn’t give them enough alone time to refresh and replenish. Vulnerability builds up in submissives, and it further strengthens the influence of the degrader.

Examples:

1. Remove all locks in the rooms.
2. Watch them urinate or excrete in the toilet.
3. Handcuff them in the bed while sleeping.
4. Spectate them undressing their clothes.
5. Forbid their pleas to leave the house.

8 Do some bondage on them.

Restraining them from moving their ligaments traps them from doing almost anything. Pathetic little thing, the dominant thinks. It urges the submissive to beg or whine when it gets “worse”, but at the same time, they crave even more to please their dominant,

Examples:

1. Tie their hands and knees to the bed.
2. Wrap a necktie around their wrists.
3. Handcuff their wrist with yours for a whole day.
4. Blindfold them.
5. Do Shibari, a Japanese-style rope bondage with different variations.
6. Wrap a rope around their genitalia.

9 Monitor their lifestyle.

This is where the submissive loses all rights to their life when someone strictly controls them, nitpicking what they should and shouldn’t do. Yet it’s also like someone is guiding them even if it gets too wild.

Examples: 

1. Track down their activities.
2. Teach them how to behave.
3. Give them a curfew.
4. Ban them from eating their favorite food.
5. Control their eating portions.
6. Instruct them to eat until they can’t anymore.
7. Prohibit them from seeing their friends/family.
8. “Force” them to chug down their bodily fluids.

10 Have your own specific, special rituals.

This is a chance to get creative! Aside from our list, consider the dynamics and history of your relationship. Are there certain moments or actions you want to take advantage of in the bedroom? Erotic Degradation in the physical sense is all about trial and error, so degrade responsibly!

Verbal Degradation Ideas to Try

Hands off! Let the mouth embark on some torturing to the degradee.

We’ll be classifying Verbal Degradation under different sections, so keep scrolling our ideas on how to verbally degrade your partner that stimulates enjoyment (and even some unexpected O’s)!

1 Belittle them.

Viewing them lowly and then uttering words that express those sentiments will make them feel smaller. It instills in them that they are not on the same level as you.

Examples of belittling nicknames:

1. Girl
2. Boy
3. Pet 
4. Miss
5. Crybaby
6. Wuss
7. Doll
8. Bad Boy
9. Bad Girl
10. Naughty Boy
11. Naughty Girl

2 Mock their being.

Taunting every detail about your submissive can mess with their self-esteem. Spreading ridicule that anything they do, even just breathing, is a nuisance makes it difficult for them to be in your presence.

Examples:

1. Imitate their accent.
2. Copy their talking voice and converse with them.
3. Laugh at them.
4. Taunt their words with a high-shrill voice.
5. Poke fun at their appearance.

3 Insult them.

Go full throttle and target your submissives about any part of them. Physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually, be as personal as possible and reach their core weaknesses. Be creative with adjectives, and even use animals in the mix.

Examples of Insults:

1. Ugly
2. Pathetic
3. Worthless
4. Dumb
5. Fatty
6. Pig
7. Dog
8. Brat
9. Pup
10. Kitten

Examples of Insult Phrases:

1. “God, that’s the best you can do?”
2. “Why do you look like that?”
3. “You are not enough to be mine.”
4. “Do you deserve me?”
5. “You unworthy brat.”
6. “Just stop talking.”
7. “You are annoying.”
8. “Shut it, pup.”
9. “Your [body part] is so weak.”
10. “Oink oink, fatty.”

4 Objectify them.

To view them merely as an object completely forgets their human existence and lower them to an inanimate item. When done properly, it leaves the submissive wanting to be thrown like a ragdoll. 

Examples of objectifying words:

1. It
2. Thing
3. Ragdoll
4. Hole

5 Swear at them.

This is a chance to drop all formalities. Be free to be a potty mouth and curse your submissive as badly as possible!

Examples of swear words:

1. Slut
2. Whore
3. Cock sucker
4. Pussy
5. Attention Whore
6. F*cker
7. Ass Wipe
8. Bitch in Heat
9. Cum Dump
10. Dickhead

6 Make them repeat their words.

Quite self-explanatory, but ordering them to this gives submissives the impression that they are stupid and forgetful. You can order them to repeat their words as many times as you please. Maybe have them laid on your lap while you slap their butt to bring more sting.

7 Mandate honorifics when addressing you.

Add more division and increase your superiority over your submissive by requiring them to add an honorific before your name or as is. Honorifics exist to pay respect for someone of a senior position or older age, but imagine being younger yet your submissive are still using them under your power? 

Steamy, if you ask us. 

Examples of Honorifics:

1. Sir
2. Madam
3. Mister
4. Miss
5. Master
6. Mistress
7. Daddy
8. Mommy

8 Require them to ask for permission.

Permission is no longer present when you’re an adult, especially when you move out of your home. But with Degradation kink? The submissive is left with no choice if you don’t want to piss your dominant off.

Examples of Permission Phrases:

1. “May I go to the bathroom?”
2. “Can I see my friends?”
3. “May I eat here with you?”
4. “Can I sit on your lap?”
5. “Am I allowed to sleep beside you?”
6. “May I cum?”
7. “Say please, slut.”
8. “Ask me first, boy.”

9 Make them speak like a kid.

Acting like a kid means dropping all your knowledge and acting as if you’re learning everything again. With words, it means wrong pronunciation, grammar, and even stuttering. If you have a baby sibling, nephew, or niece, take note of how they present themselves.

Examples:

1. Use a pouty tone when speaking.
2. Fake a lisp.
3. Stutter non-stop like you’re nervous.
4. Tell them to channel a child-like cuteness.
5. Instruct them to slow down their talking.
6. Ask them to squeal when they play with toys.
7. Eat your words.

10 Force them to give you compliments.

No matter how intense the dominant treats their submissive, flowering them in compliments (when included in their dynamic) must be observed. Even when physical or verbal degradation plays a strong role already, the submissive must suck it up and praise the heck of their dominant on how mighty they are to them. Even saying thank you after everything they put you through adds an extra cherry on top.

Sexual Degradation Ideas to Try

People can get turned on in diverse ways, some ways that are either the same or different from others. That’s what makes us unique. And by embracing our uniqueness, the sexual side of the degradation kink is capable of getting those amazing O’s. Keep reading to know how!

1 Force them to perform sexual acts.

“Stop!” but not really? It’s a common phrase used in sex generally, although it’s been a buzzing topic on whether or not consensual nonconsensual sex is okay. But with sexual degradation, consent is already a given.

Examples:

1. Make them squirt.
2. Perform anal play with sex toys (butt plug, pegging, etc).
3. Request them to please your friends sexually.
4. “Force” them to give or receive oral sex (cunnilingus or fellatio).
5. Use gags or restraints on the submissive’s body.
6. Claim them as your personal sex toy.

2 Insult their sexual performance.

Sex is something we constantly want validation for, even if we say we don’t. From asking past partners if we’re any good to have more exchanges with new ones, we really aim to please. But whenever someone gives you bad remarks, insults even, about it, your self-esteem drops. And that’s the goal of this kink.

Examples of Sex-related Insult Phrases:

1. “Is it even inside yet?”
2. “You’re not wet enough, slut.”
3. “No wonder no one wants to f*ck your [private part].”
4. “That’s it?”
5. “Do you even like me if you’re not hard?”
6. “Other people would die to have sex with me.”
7. “Don’t tell me that’s your very best already.”

3 Deny them of their orgasm.

There’s nothing worse and annoying than you sense your orgasm coming, curling your toes and moaning to the thrilling sensations of the sexual act. Except it never arrives – and your partner looks at you with a smirk on their face. With sexual degradation, you can expect a lot of that’ll just rile you up and beg your dominant to let you come.

4 Overstimulate them.

From not getting your orgasm, feeling it rush through your veins without stopping is another kind of torture. When one orgasm falls through during intercourse, another builds up to completely crash down then the process keeps repeating until the dominant chooses to stop. Overstimulation aims to repeatedly bring you to your tipping point with an impactful fall, and even with whining or groaning, they won’t stop.

5 Force them to watch pornographic material.

To ruin their dignity, allow the submissive to view said material from the dominant to show what they aren’t doing right in the bedroom or imitate the actions shown. The implication is that their sex game is weak, so watching other partners do the deed a lot better messes with their minds.

Public Degradation Ideas to Try

The concept of the Degradation kink is already intense enough from what we have shared so far, but what more when it’s done in public? To have more prying eyes witness you be a slave to your dominant or ordering your submissive around, doesn’t it sound even more thrilling? Offline or online, pull this type of erotic degradation by browsing through this section!

1 Force them to buy embarrassing things in stores.

Ruin your submissive’s dignity more by making them purchase items that can make everyone uncomfortable since they don’t know the context yet entertain you. Keep an eye out that they don’t fess up unless you want another reason for them to get punished.

Examples of Things Your Sub Should Buy:

1. Cucumber and Lube
2. “Sex for Dummies” Book
3. Dildos in different sizes and colors
4. Fleshlight and Lube
5. Diarrhea Medication
6. Adult Diapers

2 Force them to wear something or look weird while in public.

By this time, the submissive can handle almost anything their dominant gives them in their playroom. If submissives can make a fool of themselves privately, then doing it in public for everyone to see shouldn’t be so much of a tough hill to cross.

Examples:

1. Clothing with a tacky design
2. Revealing clothing (bikinis, thongs)
3. Kids’ costume
4. Signs around their neck with embarrassing messages
5. No eyebrows (shave it off!)
6. Ugly makeup
7. Clown makeup
8. Shave their head (for females)
9. Wigs (for men)
10. Discreet sex toys (vibrating underwear, cock rings, nipple clamps)

3 Force them to do embarrassing interactions online.

You know what they say: once it’s up on the internet, it’s there forever. If that does not peak online humiliation, we don’t know what it is! Take this chance to humiliate your submissive fully without looking back because, trust us, there’s no turning back.

Examples: 

1. Post ugly photos.
2. Message friends with something weird.
3. Create cringy videos.
4. Give the dominant access to the submissive’s socials.
5. Host a live video and make them read bad comments out loud.

4 Perform punishments in front of an audience.

Has your submissive been acting bratty lately? Unleash your frustration by involving the public eye in your degrading endeavors to raise the level of humiliation. And if they’re into it, then great! Give them a show worth watching.

Examples:

1. Have sex by the window.
2. Put them on a dog leash.
3. Host a camshow that makes them follow your every order behind the scenes.
4. Slap their body when dining in a restaurant.
5. Follow requests of the dominant makes, like brushing their hair or kissing their feet, wherever you go.
6. Spill liquids down the submissive’s trousers as if they “made an accident”.
7. Remove their undergarments while on walks.
8. Make them shout humiliating statements about themselves.

5 Force them to perform in public.

Regardless they’re talented or not, insist harshly on your submissive to give you a show of any talent you can think of on the spot. Remove all that image protection they have on themselves and make them express themselves in such a dishonorable way.

Examples: 

1. Dance on stage in a bar/club.
2. Badly sing a song on karaoke.
3. Act out a scene from a drama show/film.
4. Imitate a celebrity badly.

Tips on Venturing Erotic Degradation Safely

So, you have the ideas. How exciting!

Now, we’re giving you our top tips on practicing this kink respectfully. Things are no fun if you have little to no knowledge of what you’re doing, plus you’ll be wasting your time. So go beyond the surface of the Degradation kink, and keep reading through this list!

1 Get each other’s consent.

Consent is defined as equal agreement to partake in an event as suggested by another party, alongside being given extra knowledge of what’s bound to happen (good and bad). So even if it’s a given that performing the Degradation kink must be consensual, it’s always polite to make sure you’re on the same plane before starting your next session.

Simply asking “Are you okay with this” or “Are you sure you want to do this” for extra reassurance is enough. Keep it in mind that if it’s not a full yes, it’s a no.

2 Communication is key.

Before embarking on the Degradation kink, spare some time to bring this topic up with your partner. Aside from doing some research, establish important boundaries depending on your position as dominant or submissive. Include as well what needs you want to be fulfilled in every session.

Making assumptions about your partner and their needs cannot be done here unless you want unnecessary consequences to happen. So talk about it as thoroughly as you both can.

3 Take baby steps.

Frankly, Erotic Degradation is not an easy breeze in the park when being acted. It requires a strong mentality and physique on both ends to partake in it, so pace yourselves by starting slow and easy on the vast ladder. After getting used to some bits of it, you can only take up a notch and challenge yourself.

4 Maintain the context of your session.

If you and your partner are doing some roleplay, wherein they don’t follow your orders, or perhaps out in public, they did something that didn’t please you, merely focus on degrading them due to those scenarios. As much as these make great outlets to relieve some stress, be mindful too. 

For doms, don’t bring past anger towards them to the session. Past is past, so be in the present and properly express to them your emotions at the moment.

5 Have a safe word.

A safe word is used when either party (dominant or submissive) unintentionally ticks a nerve that may trigger bad memories or emotions, thus stopping the entire session. For the Degradation kink, it goes beyond the agreed pain both parties would feel. And as much as possible, a safe word shouldn’t be used if you want your sessions to be fun.

It’s possible that saying “no” or “stop” isn’t enough, especially in a consensual nonconsensual context. One example of a set of safe words people use is the traffic light system, wherein green means to keep going, yellow to pause momentarily, slow down, or maintain the pace, and red is to stop fully.

Other than that, come up with a special safe word with your partner that’s quick to pick up.

6 Practice proper aftercare.

This is a crucial aspect in every session regardless of whatever arrangement you have with your partner (we don’t judge here). With an extreme kink like Erotic Degradation, aftercare allows you to regain your normal self after having sex. Through words of praise, cleaning you up, cuddling, carrying you to the bed, etc., you must always take care of each other after venturing through an intense session.

7 Always discuss your overall state after each session.

After aftercare, it’s enlightening to talk with your partner and give each other feedback from your session. Since each varies all the time due to the wide spectrum of the Degradation kink, it’s important to keep notes on each session. The list goes on from knowing what to improve, what to stop, and what to continue.

So feel free to brainstorm your questions since it’s another way to learn more about your partner.

8 For dominants, make sure the tones of your voice differ from its normal tone to its degrading one.

Yes, the tones of your voice do matter, dominants!

From the perspective of a submissive, being able to differentiate their dominant voice from their normal to its degrading one ignites more arousal and spice in the dynamic. Something to anticipate and get hard/wet! 

Because at the same time, it can give them relaxation when you’re doing aftercare.

9 Be sober.

Simple as that. Restrain from intaking alcohol or drugs before your session. Being under the influence reduces your chance to give consent, and consent is an important factor here. Don’t do anything during your drunken state that can lead to regret and even trauma.

10  Stay cautious of the risks you’ll encounter.

Degradation kink isn’t meant for the minds of the weak. Challenges constantly arise, physical or mental, and it’s not something you can be a pro at overnight. So do your research and be fully certain that you want to try this kink out with your partner because it’ll test both your waters, and it may be rocky at the start for you both.

Frequently Asked Questions

We’ve pretty much laid out the main details about the Degradation kink, but just in case, we answered a few common questions that may come up when you’re bound to engage in this kink. Always better to be safe than sorry!

1 I’m a beginner, but I have this kink. Is it worth trying with my partner?

It’s ideal to try and practice this kink when you’re highly familiar with your partner and the dynamics of your sex life. As a beginner, this kink may take time to learn and get used to since it can toll your self-esteem because humiliation can delve deeper into your psychological state.

2 My partner is afraid that we’ll hurt each other with this kink, so what should I do?

It’s normal to feel this way, especially when you’re aware of the risks you’ll witness throughout the process. But an important element you and your partner must have is trust. Without it, you’ll tick some unnecessary buttons. So make sure to continuously communicate with each other, set your boundaries right, and trust that neither of you will have ill feelings when your session is over.

3 How do I react to getting kink-shamed with this one?

Honestly, just own it! Not everyone has the same preferences for kinks as you do and vice versa, and that’s okay. By owning it, you can stand up for yourself and maybe explain why you enjoy it. And if they still don’t get it, that’s a “them” problem. As long as you aren’t hurting anyone (intentionally), why let anyone’s opinion dictate your interests?

4 Is it possible to only like certain parts of the Degradation kink?

Yes! When you’re exploring through different kinks, it’s compared to a trip to a buffet. You’ll consistently try and taste various dishes out of curiosity. When you like one of them, you’ll keep getting more, then if it’s not your type, you can leave it out.

Degradation kink has a lot of activities you can choose from, so it’s up to you and your partner which ones to keep doing and which to leave out.

5 My partner did something that wasn’t what we planned out before, what do I do?

Inform them immediately after the session, or use your safe word if you’re still in session. Debrief them concretely about their actions and your emotions gained from them so that they don’t do it again. However, if your partner still refuses to give in (and we’re hoping that this is the last case scenario), we suggest you seek legal help with evidence of abuse.

Takeaway

The Degradation kink is more than just inflicting or feeling the pain to get aroused or stimulated. It can extend outside the contents of the bedroom and even get other people involved in your session. It’s also a kink that may not intrigue others as much, and that’s fine! If it works, then it works. If it doesn’t, then that’s it.

It’s still best to be cautious when you and your partner engage in this kink as it requires a complete shift of character and mood. Once the session starts, both partners must be ready physically and mentally to take it.

So aside from being careful, we hope you find fun with so many ideas in store!