On your period? Bummer. But at least you know your uterus is doing its job. And if it’s a healthy uterus, you can expect your period to come every month. On average, it can last from 5-7 days. Which, for the conservative, means no sex for a week. That sucks. Big time. But come to think of it, there’s no law stating that you’re not supposed to have sex on your period days. So really, what’s stopping you?
Period blood can be a little messy, true. And we agree that the thought of having sex while your vagina is bleeding isn’t exactly the sexiest thing in the world(it’s not the worst thing either!). But sex, in general, is a messy business. Even when you’re not on your period, your vagina is still producing lady juices when you’re horny as fuck. Your boyfriend is going to shoot his load and if he’s not wearing a condom, oh boy does it stain. While we’re at it, let’s also talk about the part where your bodies are slick and covered in each other’s sweat. Let’s not forget the spit from all that kissing and sucking. Really, the grossness is endless if we look at it this way.
So if a little period blood is what’s getting in the way of you having a blast in bed, then that’s a bit underwhelming. Especially because there are actually some pretty solid reasons why period sex can be amazing. Many sexual health experts are already vouching for sex on your period and working on eradicating the stigma it carries.
If you’re one of those women who’ve been convinced all their lives that period sex is one big taboo, we’re here to change your mind. The next time your boyfriend asks for sex while you’re on that time of the month, don’t just flat out say no to him. Read up on its benefits first prior to making your decision. And you better brace yourself, because we already feel a change of heart coming.
But is it safe?
But before we get to the nit and grit on why period sex can be great, we’re going to talk about the elephant in the room. All that blood is probably making you think you’re in no condition to do the hanky-panky. Cool it, girl. Period blood on its own can not infect your partner, unless of course, you already have existing infections. The risks of contracting any infection when having sex on your period are just the same as when you’re having sex without your period.
Another misconception that we need to clear up is about the popular belief that if you have sex on your period, you don’t risk getting pregnant. This is wrong. Sperms can survive in the womb for up to 5 days. If you have period sex at the end of your cycle, there’s a chance that the sperm is present during the ovulation, resulting in pregnancy. If getting pregnant is not part of the plan, then keep using a condom during sex even when you’re on your period to keep it safe.
Now that we got the misconceptions all cleared up, here’re the reasons why you should be doing period sex.
1 Menstrual blood can be your all-natural lube
If you can get past the “Eww blood, that’s gross. Seeing clumpy menstrual blood makes me wanna puke, or worse, faint. My bed is going to look like a murder scene just happened and oh my gosh the blood stains are hard to remove. Laundry is going to be a chore!” phase, you can take advantage of your period blood and make it work for you. Some women feel vaginal dryness. Sex can be uncomfortable if you do it without enough lubrication. To combat this, you can apply lube during sex. In this case, when you’re on your period, you can use the period blood as all-natural lubrication. Sex educator Sarah D’Andrea says that there are many people that don’t really have as much lubrication as they want when they’re aroused and period blood is just extra fluid in your vagina that can make sex a little bit slippier.
2 Orgasm may be the solution to your period cramps
When suffering from menstrual cramps, we usually grab for an over the counter pain reliever medicine. But there’s an even cheaper solution for this. You can rejoice in the knowledge that reaching orgasm can be the natural cure for your menstrual pains. It doesn’t matter if you do it with your boyfriend or you’re taking care of yourself with a vibrator, it’s the orgasm that counts here. A good orgasm causes your uterus to contract, then release, giving you some relief from your painful menstrual cramps. And if that’s not enough reason to be having period sex, orgasm also releases endorphins in your body, and increase your blood flow.
2 Enjoy shorter period days
We’ve mentioned about your uterus contracting and then releasing during your period. Another benefit that it can bring about is that it can shorten your period days. When your uterus contracts, it can sometimes cause a speedier shedding of your uterine lining. Instead of having a 7-day period, it can be cut short and turned into a 3-day period. You can definitely orgasm your way into a shorter period and have plenty of fun while doing it.
3 Sex is even more fun when you’re on your period
Your hormonal changes in part have a lot to do on why sex is even more enjoyable if you do it on your period. The hormone progesterone, known to lower libido, is responsible for preparing your endometrium to fertilize an egg. But if there’s no egg that has to be fertilized, the thickened lining in your uterus is broken down. Which in turn leads to lowered progesterone level. A lowered progesterone level may cause your libido to increase. Your clit, labia, and vagina are also more sensitive and maybe more responsive during your period because of the elevated blood circulation during your period. All of these changes in your body contribute to you experiencing better sex. Now you know not to let your menstruation stop you from doing the deed, in fact, it’s even more reason to do it.
4 Reduces your stress levels and gives you a good night sleep
For most women, we feel a little cranky when we’re on our period. It doesn’t take much to get us snapping at everything and anything that gets in our way. To get us out of that mood, a good roughing it up under the sheets may just be what you need. We’ve already mentioned how orgasm can release endorphins in your body and make you feel good. Endorphins help you relieve your stress and stop you from being a Grinch. Sex can also give you a good night sleep. When you orgasm, your body releases the hormone prolactin which aid with better sleep.
5 Headaches be gone
Many women may experience headaches during their periods and avoid sex because of it. But for the women who do have period sex, they’ve reported that sex helped in partially or completely ridding of their headaches according to a study.
How you can make period sex even better
We don’t feel our sexiest when we’re on our period. Aside from the blood we have to deal with, there’s also the sore breasts, nausea, the headaches, the grumpy mood, menstrual cramps, and even leg pains. With all these physical and hormonal changes you’re experiencing, it’ hard to be at our best. But not impossible. Just remember to express how you feel to your partner. Communicate and tell him what pains you. That way, he can make accommodations for you and be gentle as possible when having sex.
1 Shower sex on your period is your best bet
Look, we know you hate doing the laundry. We hate it too. Dealing with blood stains is especially a pain in the ass. So if you don’t want to waste extra time and effort ridding of the blood stains in your sheets(they’re really hard to come off, by the way), why not just do it in the showers? That way, you can make as much mess as you want and you don’t have to keep worrying at the back of your mind about the cleaning up you have to do after. There’s running water to help with that so you can just enjoy having your boyfriend bang you on your bathroom walls. The only thing you have to watch out for is slippery tiles. But other than that, you got nothing to worry about.
2 Do it doggy style
If you must do it in your bed, then we suggest you do it in doggy position. Even if you’re not on your period, you gotta admit doing it in doggy position is always so much fun. So you can’t really go wrong with this one. If you’re someone who finds doggy painful, the best time to give it another shot is when you’re on your period. Your cervix is positioned slightly higher when you’re on your period which may result in your partner missing that spot during penetration. Of course, it’s also a sex position that lets you avoid spreading blood all over your bed.
3 Play with clitoral vibrators
Sex toys are great for both solo and coupled sex. If you’re doing it with a partner, and you’re strongly against penetration, you can still do the sexy in bed by using clitoral vibrators. And it’s especially useful if your boyfriend isn’t a fan of going down on you when you got blood on your vagina, but still wants to please you in other ways. Clitoral vibrators are also called suckers because of simply just vibrating, they also have suction technology that feels like you’re getting an oral when you use it in your clit. Keep in mind that you need to clean your sex toy before and after use to keep everything sanitary and avoid infections.
4 Wet wipes can come in handy
We’re all about you getting down and dirty in bed, but only in a metaphorical manner. Keep wet wipes close by so you can easily clean up after yourselves when the deed all said and done. You don’t want to come out of the room with literal blood smeared all over your body. Unless you want people to think you just came out of a crime scene.
Menses are part of a woman’s life. It’s natural and biological. And anything natural such as sex and a woman’s period doesn’t have to be a taboo topic. Be open with your partner if you want to do it while you’re on your period. Or if it’s a solo play, there’s no need for you to feel guilty about it. With all the reasons we’ve just listed on why period sex can be amazing, it’s totally worth giving a try. Make your period days so much better with sex on the side.