How to Transform Your Room Into a Sex Dungeon (Go Kinky!)

One of the best ways to engage in kinky plays or fulfill your sexual fantasies is by having a dedicated space for it. If you feel the bedroom is “too traditional” for unconventional sexual activities such as BDSM or roleplaying, we recommend building a sex dungeon to set a unique sensual vibe.

Now, you don’t have to get a whole apartment just to have your own playroom; a simple spare room or even your bedroom will do. All you need is some bondage equipment, pleasure toys, mood lights, sensual decor, and you’re good to go!

For this guide, we will help you convert your room into a sultry sex dungeon. We will share the five main factors you should consider before building your playroom and the best love toys you should include.

What is a Sex Dungeon?

A sex dungeon is a private space designed for BDSM play and other unconventional erotic games. The room consists of various sex toys, sex furniture, and other props for kinky plays. It’s been featured on numerous films and shows, such as the Fifty Shades of Grey (Red Room of Pain) and Big Bang Theory (the infamous “We turned your room into a sex dungeon!” scene).

One of the common misconceptions about building your own sex dungeon is that it should look dark and mysterious, somewhat similar to Christian Grey’s Playroom. People also think you’ll need to shell out a big amount of $$$ to successfully build a sex dungeon. That’s not the case, though, as any bedroom or spare room can turn into a kinky playroom— all you need to do is to get creative with the decor, get the basic playroom essentials, and you’re good; to go!

Things to Consider When Building a Sex Dungeon

Before you start shopping for sex toys and other playroom essentials, it’s important to set out a plan first. This will help you successfully transform your room into a sex dungeon without overspending. Here are things you should consider when building your dream playroom.

1Space

The first thing you should think about when building your own sex dungeon is the space. Your room must be spacious enough to hold at least a queen-sized bed and a medium cabinet filled with your kinky toys. You should also consider picking a room with enough floor space in case you want to engage in sultry games right on the floor. And if you want to put up a few pieces of BDSM furniture, then we recommend getting a separate room just for your sex dungeon, such as a room in the basement.

Aside from the size of the room, make sure that your private space has enough ventilation. Things can really get hot and heavy during your sexual plays, so make sure to have an electric fan or air conditioner in the room to keep you both comfortable.

2Privacy

Another thing to consider when transforming your room into a sex dungeon is the privacy of your house and playroom. Are you living with other people? Living with a family who just comes and goes to your bedroom? Does your apartment unit have thin walls, and neighbors can easily hear your private affairs? This is an important factor to note as building a sex dungeon is a compromised space that may end up with awkward moments, such as your mom stepping in to see your BDSM bed restraints and dildos.

If you’re living with family or friends and want to avoid such encounters, we recommend not decorating your room into a sex dungeon, but have a large and secured box filled with your kinky toys and costumes. You can then simply set up when you’re about to play and ensure that your privacy isn’t compromised.

Remember that BDSM plays such as bondage and impact play may result in tons of screaming and moaning. This is why if your room has thin walls, consider soundproofing the room before building a sex dungeon in there.

3Preferred Toys

After picking out a room and making the necessary steps in keeping its privacy, list down your preferred sex toys, BDSM toys, props, pieces of kinky furniture, and other playroom essentials. Remember that this is your playroom, so no need to follow the steps of Christian Grey and choose sex toys that are designed to be “dark and mysterious.” If you want it to be more casual or have a certain aesthetic (like toys with pastel colors or minimalist toys), go for it!

4Decor

Aside from listing your preferred playroom toys, you also need to come up with the theme and decor of the room. Do you want it to look like a casual bedroom? Do you want it to fit a certain fantasy, such as the forest or office space? Are you planning to have blacklight in it or  fill it with scented candles? Whatever your preference is, as long as you have the budget to put up with the decor, go for it! Again, this is your playroom; go for what your sultry side desires.

5Budget

Last but definitely not least is the budget. Once you’ve laid out the plan, you’ll need to set up your budget to fulfill your sex dungeon.

If your budget doesn’t fit in with what you’re trying to achieve, you can simply start with the basics, then slowly move to more expensive decor, sex toys, and BDSM equipment. In that way, you’ll still get to have sensual fun without breaking the bank!

Sex Dungeon Essentials

After finalizing your plan, your next move should be getting all the playroom essentials. If you’re still unsure about what to get or simply want to get recommended toys and brands from us, then we got you covered. Here are the different love toys and BDSM equipment that you should get for your sex dungeon.

1Cuffs

Since most sex dungeons are made to “hold captive” their partners and spoil them with pulsating pleasure, you should prioritize getting a restrainer such as handcuffs or ankle cuffs. They’re made from stainless steel, leather, or fabric and often covered in a soft material such as cotton or faux fur to prevent the skin from chaffing. This bondage toy is made to restrain your partner from moving and giving you a sense of control in pleasuring them.

If you’re still a newbie to bondage play, we recommend beginner-friendly cuffs such as the ones with velcro snaps. But if you really want to go full traditional and get cuffs with a metal lock, always remember where you hide the key. Handcuffs with metal locks can be hard to take off. Not to mention, it’s awkward to explain to a locksmith should you need to get another key.

2Bed Restraint

Another basic bondage toy that you should get for your sex dungeon is a bed restraint. It’s designed to restrain the whole body, making you or your partner take over the reins and spoil you with body-shaking sensations.

What’s great about this one is it transforms a simple bed into a kinky one. Not only that, but it doesn’t require complicated setups, unlike other BDSM furniture. Just strap the clips at the corners of your mattress, then voila! You’re now ready to play. It’s also easy to remove from your bed and easily stored in a discreet storage pouch or bag.

3BDSM Rope

If you’re an experienced kinkster and want to get more creative with your bondage plays, we highly recommend adding a BDSM rope to your sex dungeon. It’s one of the most versatile BDSM toys, as you can transform your rope into various knots.

However, keep in mind that tying your partner up requires a certain skill. If you’re just recklessly tying your partner up, it may lead to mishaps, and worse, you might be spending the session in an ER. Don’t also forget to have rope scissors within reach.

4Eye Mask

An eye mask isn’t just a must-have in your sex dungeon but also one of the most affordable toys out of this list. It’s also designed to heighten your senses while wearing it, making you or your partner deeply feel the slap, tickles, and kisses during the kinky session.

5Tickler

Another basic BDSM toy that you should get for your playroom is a tickler. As the name suggests, it’s designed to tickle your sub or partner. It’s usually made with a slender handle and faux feathers or silicone strands at the end. You can also use this love toy to give intense stings to your partner; it all depends on how you whip this bad boy out.

6Paddle

If you or your partner is more into spanking than tickling, then get a paddle instead. This BDSM tool is usually made with leather, wood, or at times, metal. It has a flat surface and is commonly used by doms to hit their subs’ bodies (safe zones).

7Whip

If you’re looking for a BDSM impact play toy that’s more intense than a paddle, then oh boy, you’ll love this one. Whips are designed with small and thin crops or strands, sending quick and sure hits to your partner’s hottest spots. If you’re still new to impact play, we don’t really recommend prioritizing this toy as it can inflict pain on your partner. Just start with ticklers and paddles first before moving to this one. As for seasoned kinksters, this is definitely a must-have for your sexy playroom!

8Nipple Clamps

Are you into nipple play? Then you should get this one for your sex dungeon. Nipple clamps are designed to squeeze the nipples, bringing a tingling and pulling sensation to the area. Aside from giving yourself or your partner tingling sensations, nipple clamps also make your nips more sensitive to touch. So if you like massaging, licking, and sucking your partner’s nipples, this is a great addition to your playroom collection.

9Mouth Gag

If you want to take the restraint plays to the next level, get a mouth gag. It keeps yourself or your partner from speaking clearly and muffle their screams and moans. It also provides a powerful visual, emphasizing the power exchange between you and your partner in the sex dungeon. The sub may feel more helpless, and this added “restriction” arouses them.

10Mini Vibrator

Who says you can only bring BDSM toys and equipment in a sex dungeon? Every sultry toy is welcome, such as a mini vibrator. This sleek vibrating toy fits right in your hand and can be used to tease your partner’s sensitive spots. They also come in various shapes and colors, so if you’re following a certain aesthetic in your sex toy collection, you can surely find a mini vibe that fits within your style.

11Dildo

If your sex dungeon games include pegging, strap-on play, or double penetration, getting dildos is a must! They’re designed like a penis, making them an ideal toy for deep vaginal and anal penetration. Some variations also include vibrating, rotating, and thrusting features.

12Anal Plug or Anal Beads

If you and your partner love anal play, then you should prioritize getting a wide variety of anal plugs and anal beads. They’re designed to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in your anal region. The male g-spot is also located inside the anus, so if you have a male partner, you might want to “torture” them with irresistible sensations on your sex dungeon. *wink*

13Cock Ring

Cock rings are designed to restrict blood flow out of the penis, making the wearer’s erection firmer and longer-lasting. They’re also used in BDSM-related plays, such as cock-and-ball torture and orgasm control. If you’re a guy or have a male partner, consider getting this one to spice up your sex dungeon plays.

14Remote-Controlled Sex Toys

Another great non-BDSM toy that you should include in your kinky playroom is remote-controlled toys. It could be love eggs, wearable vibrators, cock rings, fleshlights, anal plugs, and more. What makes sex toys with remote a fun addition to a sex dungeon is that it lets the dom control the toy, leaving the sub helpless and incredibly aroused. It’s also a great toy for restraint play; just tie the sub on the bed using a bed restraint, gently insert a love egg, bullet vibrator, or vibrating anal plug, then watch your partner squirm as you switch up the vibration modes.

15Sexy Costumes

Aside from decorating your space, you should dress for the part too! Wearing themed sexy costumes will surely amp up the kinky sessions in your sex dungeon. It also helps you and your partner separate your usual selves and immerse yourselves in the fantasy.

16App-Controlled Sex Toys

We recommend skipping the sex toys with a remote and getting an app-controlled one if you have the extra budget. What’s great about app-controlled toys is that they have the features of a remote-controlled toy plus many innovative features.

For instance, some app-controlled toys let you or your partner control the device, whenever, wherever. Some app-controlled vibrators come with music mode and ambiance noise mode, which lets you control the vibrations using any song and the sounds around your room.

17Sex Swing

If you want to level up (literally) the sensual plays in your sex dungeon, then we highly recommend getting a sex swing. It’s designed to elevate one or two people from the ground and is used for various types of sexual plays and sex positions. This pleasure device comes in different forms— some can be tied up in the door, others are required some metal frame for support, while some sex swings are designed to be tied up in the ceiling. Make sure to pick a sex swing that fits right in your space.

18BDSM Wax Candle or Massage Candle

If you and your partner are into wax play or temperature play, you should definitely include a BDSM wax candle or massage candle in your sex dungeon.

A BDSM candle is pretty similar to what a regular candle is. The difference is with its composition, as a BDSM candle is made with high-quality medical hairdressing wax. It’s the perfect love toy for BDSM wax play and temperature play.

On the other hand, a massage candle is made with soy or shea butter. The candle doesn’t turn into a scalding-hot wax but a warm oil when you light it up. Due to its low melting point and tempting smell, it’s usually used for sensual massages, temperature play, and wax play.

Both of these toys can be used for wax play, on which the dom pours melted wax over their sub’s body.

19Spanking Bench

If you have an extra space in your sex dungeon, try having a spanking bench in it! If you and your partner are into spanking, you’ll surely love this one. It’s structured with a rectangular steel frame and padded for your comfort. But what makes a spanking bench a must-have in your playroom is it’s usually designed with multiple attachment points on which you can apply the proper restraint, such as cuffs, chains, ropes, and other types of restraints.

20BDSM Triangle Cross

If you’re an experienced kinkster and want to intensify your kinky plays, we highly recommend getting a BDSM Triangle Cross. It’s an X-shaped frame featuring multiple attachment points that you can apply your ropes and cuffs. This alluring structure helps the dom facilitate any punishment or reward for their naughty sub. It’s also a great structure to try different standing sex positions, as the metal frame can work as extra support.

Tips

Ready to build your sex dungeon? We’re so excited for you. But before you start buying supplies for this special room, make sure to consider the following tips:

1Communicate with your partner.

This tip is particularly for married or cohabiting couples, but make sure to communicate with your partner first before building a sex dungeon. We understand that some of you might be tempted to surprise your partner, but doing this approach can either lead to a happily ever after or disaster. Not everyone is into having a sex dungeon, so it’s important to take into account what your partner thinks of the idea.

You can start the discussion casually while cuddling in the bedroom or having a quick date in some cozy cafe. Ask them if they’re interested in it and see where it goes. Now, if your partner isn’t familiar with the idea of a sex dungeon or room, you can share this blog with them or have a Netflix-and-chill night and watch ‘How to Build a Sex Room.’

If your partner isn’t interested in having a sex room, don’t just start getting grumpy or guilt-trip them into saying yes. Try to learn the reason behind it. Some reasons can be worked on, like they don’t like the typical sex dungeon decor, such as leather accessories and such, or they’re afraid that your kids will get to hear what’s going on in the room. You can make a compromise in these scenarios, such as letting your partner take charge of what to decorate in the sex room or making the space soundproof. However, if their reasons involved not being interested in kinky sex or sexual trauma, consider skipping this idea.

2Make sure that the bed or main bench is front and center.

Melanie Rose, an interior designer known for her stunning sex rooms, mentioned in the Netflix show ‘How to Build a Sex Room’ that the bed should be front and center. It’s where the main action is happening, so it should be inviting when you open the door.

That said, we recommend putting your bed in a commanding position; it should be the main star of your sex room. If you follow feng shui principles, ensure the footboard isn’t pointing directly at the door.

3A sex dungeon can be anything— decorate however you want.

Melanie Rose also mentioned in ‘How to Build a Sex Room’ that a sex room can be anything. So, in terms of decoration and aesthetics, go with whatever your heart desires. Want a pink-themed sex dungeon? Something that looks straight out of a luxury spa? Something that focuses on pet play? It’s all up to you and your boo.

4If you have children or people constantly coming over, keep it lowkey!

If you have kids or host a lot of parties in your home, make sure to keep the sex room as discreet as possible. Try creating a hidden door so it can easily blend at home. Now, if you can’t modify the door, keep it locked when not in use— this will save you a lot of awkward moments.

5Make sure the sex dungeon is easy to clean.

Do you love “golden showers” or being peed on? Is food play included in your kinks? Is there a lot of “dripping” involved in your BDSM sessions? If that’s the case, we highly recommend making the room convenient for cleanup. If the space is big enough, consider adding a separate bathroom to easily do the wet and messy kinks in the room. Avoid carpets or fur decor since these things easily stick to bodily fluids.

Takeaway

Building a sex dungeon isn’t as complicated nor expensive as one might think. You don’t have to be a millionaire just to have your own pleasure room. As long as you have the right love toys and a dash of creativity, you’ll soon be able to build your own playroom!